Positive Dialogue with Oneself: Benefits and Methods

influence or pressure from the environment. However, this type of dialogue significantly impacts us because it reflects our respect and appreciation for ourselves in the events and situations in our lives. It may lead us to success if it is positive, or it may lead us to failure if it is negative. Therefore, it is essential to know what positive self-dialogue is to benefit from it in managing our lives optimally.

The concept of positive dialogue with oneself

It is always positive self-talk, rethinking all events to affirm positive emotions, transforming negative thoughts into positive and motivational thoughts, and always believing that the best will happen and not the worst; This is because everything that happens to us is what we attract to us through our thoughts.

Of course, a person can't remain optimistic permanently because a person is by nature affected by sad situations and the pressures of work and life. People may cry, be in pain, and think pessimistically. However, it is important to avoid continuing this way but to see the glass half full to complete their life better and achieve their desired goals. Therefore, it is necessary to monitor our conversation with ourselves well, pay attention to the thoughts that we send to ourselves, and always be careful to stay away from negative talk. Some examples of that are the following:

• The person who is late to find the right partner for them to get married later and be able to form a family can positively think about this issue. That is, they can consider this period essential and can be invested in learning new things, such as enrolling in educational courses like language courses, developing their talents, or using this period to focus on their work and strive more to get a promotion and improve their financial situation. We find them talking to themselves with positive phrases such as: “I will find the right person at the right time, and one day I will have the happiness I wish for.” They can think negatively and always talk to themselves with phrases such as: “I am emotionally unsuccessful,” “I will not be able to find the right partner,” “I am not beautiful,” or other negative phrases that increase pessimism and sadness in themselves.

• The person who was not able to get the job they want will believe in this situation that they are a failure and will repeat the phrases: “I do not deserve this job,” “I am not qualified for it,” or “I am a failure, and I will not be able to succeed.” This increases their failure in the coming times, so it is correct for them to say, “I will work more hard to earn it next time,” or “There is no good for me in this place, so God kept me away from it.”

Benefits of positive self-talk

Psychology experts always recommend positive self-dialogue. This is due to its many positive effects on mental and physical health. Among these benefits, we mention the following:

1. It decreases depression and makes you feel more satisfied with yourself and your life.
2. It relieves stress because positive dialogue increases your ability to deal with the various stresses of life in a better way, and increases your ability to cope with difficult times.
3. It increases the default human lifespan and prolongs the enjoyment of a healthy life.
4. It improves a person's physical health because it improves heart and blood vessel health. This means that positive self-dialogue reduces the risk of death from heart disease. Studies say that it dramatically increases the body's resistance to common colds.

It is believed that people who think positively and follow a positive self-dialogue method live a healthier life than others by always exercising, following an integrated health system, and staying away from smoking, alcohol, and everything that harms their bodies. This means that they are far from the bad effects of psychological stress on the body. Therefore, their physical health is often better than others.

Ways to apply positive self-dialogue

Positive self-talk is not as complicated as some of us think, and it does not require a lot of effort, work, or time. Also, it does not need to be happy and cheerful all day long.

It only takes a few minutes of your time daily or a few seconds. It is done by following what is written below:

1. Be grateful

The word gratitude here is not limited to the word thank you, but it takes on a deeper meaning. You must appreciate every moment in your life and every experience you live, whether it is a failed or successful experience. Also, you must be happy and grateful to every person you meet because the bad person teaches you a new lesson so that you do not make the same mistake again, and the good person always stands by you and supports you in your life. You should be grateful for everything that life has given you. Even the simple things are blessings that others miss. In this way, you can feel the beauty of life with its sweetness and bitterness and accept the circumstances that you are going through more simply.

2. Watch the words and phrases that you say to yourself

This can be done by applying the following method: When you wake up in the morning and think, write down all the positive and negative thoughts that you said to yourself. If you notice that most of them are positive words, then you are one of the people who conduct a positive dialogue with themselves. If the negative words are the most here, then you must think about what are the reasons and sources for these words and then work to convert them into positive thoughts in the following form:

Positive Dialogue with Self:	Negative Dialogue with Self:
Praise be to God, I have a good job that suffices me for my daily bread, and I have nice colleagues at work.	I'm going to work and it's a little far away, it's tiring every day.
It is a new experience and an opportunity to gain new experiences. I will not let this opportunity go to waste.	I can't do this because I haven't done it before.
I can organize my time and I will get all work done on time.	I'm a loser, I can't catch up on all the work.
I have learned from all my previous mistakes and will succeed this time. I won't lose my partner.	I will fail in this emotional relationship because I failed in my previous relationships.
I am pleased with this diet and the effort I am making to positively change my appearance and improve my physical health.	I'm fat, my clothes look bad and I can't find the right outfit. The results of this diet are very slow.

3. Never compare yourself to others

because this will generate a feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself and what you own. For example, you may see your friend married and has children like you, but he owns a wonderful house while you have a simple house, so you start comparing yourself to him and saying that you are not as successful as him and that you will not be able to achieve your dreams. However, your friend is heavily in debt because he cannot live within his means. On the other hand, you have organized your life better than him. So don't look on the bright side in someone's life because you probably don't know the whole story. We all have a dark side.

4. Stay away from negative people in your life

If one of the people close to you always has a negative mood, then this is bad because they will automatically transfer their negative energy to you without you realizing it and make you repeat their negative thoughts, and then your dialogue with yourself will be negative. Suppose you cannot completely cut off your relationship with them because of family ties or because of work conditions. In that case, it is enough to limit your relationship with them and be careful not to spend too much time with them.

5. Do not overthink the past

We all have bad memories and failed experiences but must not allow the past to control us. Rather, failure should motivate us to start over and try more diligently to succeed this time. For example, you should not give up if you fail to complete a well-planned project. On the contrary, you should consider failure an opportunity to develop your skills. You must always plan again and motivate yourself with positive terms. This is because despair and frustration make your thinking negative, and then you will repeat failure many times.

Speak positively to others because the positive thoughts that we speak to others lead to a positive dialogue with oneself, and otherwise is also true. For example, you should not look at the negative actions of others. Rather, always remind yourself of their positive behavior and meet them with praise because beautiful words will bring you similar ones and make the other person do more positive actions. Then you will lead your relationships with others and your life to a better place.

Try as much as possible to help others because helping gives positive feelings, and giving makes you feel stronger, more optimistic, and more satisfied. Others will thank you, and then you will thank yourself with positive phrases that make you happy.

6. Make sure to exercise regularly

It is preferable to allocate 30 minutes a day to exercise or walk because of the important role of sport in reducing stress and then thinking more positively and the ability to face and deal with the pressures of daily life.

You can follow relaxation methods such as yoga or deep breathing, and it is preferable to follow a healthy diet to ensure the health of the body and mind, as it will reflect positively on mental health and increase positive thinking. Then your dialogue with yourself and with others will always be positive.

Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed

If you are not confident in yourself, you will repeat negative phrases such as: “I cannot, or I am a failure,” and then you will be afraid of any new experience and you will remain in your place forever. Therefore, you should not allow fear to control you, no matter how much you failed previously, and one of the methods that help you increase your self-confidence is writing down positive phrases and pasting them in places where you can see them constantly. Among these phrases:

1. I am proud of myself.
2. I am grateful that I succeeded in this.
3. I will be very happy.
4. I will achieve all my goals.
5. I am a special and important person.
6. I love others, and I love myself very much.

In conclusion

You cannot have a positive dialogue with yourself if you have negative thoughts in life because the two things are very related to each other. You cannot become an optimistic person in a jiffy. At the same time, change is not difficult or too late. Given the importance of positive thinking and dialogue with oneself in your life and in achieving your goals and dreams, you must follow the above tips and instructions to become optimistic.