Note: This article is taken from the blog "ERIN FALCONER", in which she talks about determining the right time to reduce losses and stop doing something.
Sometimes, you realise that to accomplish your goals, you must push past temporary obstacles or discomfort. Other times, it feels like you’re chasing after something meaningless; your interest and enthusiasm have waned, and all you want to do is quit. What often holds you back is the time, money, or energy you’ve already invested. This could be as simple as:
- Reading 100 pages of a dull novel but feeling obligated to finish it.
- Buying a box of bad cookies and eating them all because you don’t want to waste money.
- Starting a poem and losing inspiration after three hours of writing, thinking quitting now would waste your time. Or it could be something significant that dramatically impacts your life.
- Following a career path for six years, you increasingly feel it’s not for you.
- Maintaining a deteriorating relationship for three years.
- Spending most evenings over four years on a hobby that now bores you, wishing you could reclaim that lost time.
- Spending seven years writing a novel, getting positive feedback from friends, but now disliking it and feeling tired of working on it, yet not wanting to waste all that time.
- Investing money in vitamins and supplements without seeing real results after six months, and a nutritionist tells you you don’t really need them. You consider stopping but hate to admit you wasted hundreds of dollars.
Don't continue with an activity just because you've already put time or money into it, no matter how big or small. That time and money are gone and can’t be reclaimed. However, what you can save is your future time and money by stopping something you don’t truly want to continue.
Letting Go of Things That No Longer Make You Happy
I used to play an online game for several hours every day when I was a teenager. I eventually realised that my interests had changed, and the game was no longer appealing. However, I hesitated to quit because I thought I had given it too much of my life.
Stopping felt like admitting I’d wasted all that time. I realised that there was no need to waste any more time. The best time to quit is when you realise you’re not getting enough out of it to justify the time or money you’re spending, and that’s unlikely to change.
Interests naturally evolve, and sometimes, a change in circumstances means something that once was fun is now boring. Don’t cling to things just because you’ve been committed to them for a long time. You can stop at any moment. Don't push yourself to watch the fourth season of a TV show just because you've watched the previous three and are already bored. Simply put, stop reading a novel if you're halfway through and find it difficult to keep reading.
Remember that cutting your losses and moving on is not about giving up but about recognising that your time and energy are precious. Invest them in something that truly matters to you. Keep your journey vibrant and fulfilling by embracing the new and letting go of what no longer serves you.
Quitting a Job with No Room for Growth
Tim Ferriss tells a great story in his book The 4-Hour Workweek about a failed attempt to make the world's largest carb-free cheesecake and then having to eat it: "This new recipe will taste like liquid cheese mixed with cold water and about 600 packets of sweetener. I wasted a whole day and lots of ingredients, so I have to eat it. You might think this sounds silly, but it’s a small-scale example of what people always do with jobs—self-imposed suffering we could avoid."
You could find a job right after college and later realised it wasn't what you wanted to do. It's alright to move on, regardless of how long it took you to realise this—a month, a year, or even half your life. Don't prolong your pain because you believe that the suffering you have experienced in the past was in vain.
Take control and decide to leave a job where you can’t make any progress. You might have many opportunities for promotions within your workplace, but if none of those positions excite you, it’s time to submit your resignation.
Nothing is Wasted
What comforts me when cutting my losses and giving up on an activity is remembering that nothing is truly wasted. You can always extract something valuable from any experience:
- The recreational activity you’re abandoning now might have helped you through a tough time in your life.
- That failed relationship might have revealed a part of your personality you didn’t know existed.
- A job that didn’t advance your career could still teach you some useful skills, even if they aren’t directly related to the job itself.
- Engaging in an activity might have introduced you to new friends.
In Conclusion
You’ve undoubtedly learned something about yourself. Perhaps your failed freelance endeavour showed you that you need an office environment to be productive. Maybe all those unfinished historical novels convinced you that you'd never enjoy them, even though your friends always recommend them.
What activities are you currently involved in that you’d like to stop? Why are you sticking with them? Is it because you believe you’ll gain something in the end, or is it due to a misguided feeling that you don’t want to waste the time or money you’ve already invested?
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