10 Tips to Recreate Your Personality in a Way that Helps You Achieve Success

So, do you feel stuck in problems and crises, facing some setbacks? Or do you have this constant idea that your life has reached a dead end?

In this article, we will show you ten ways to help you change yourself, which are methods mentioned by the writer (Todd Herman) in his book The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life. Herman has worked with stars in the sports and business field for over two decades and is very good at changing people.

What does it mean to recreate yourself?

Recreating yourself means changing the parts of your personality that you do not like or no longer serve you. This may mean changing your profession, bad habits, some of your characteristics, or developing new skills. If you feel that you want to recreate your personality, this may be due to one of two reasons:

1. You realize that you need to practice the right profession, that you are on the wrong track, or that you are in an improper relationship.
2. You realize that you need to progress faster. Despite the existence of a goal, it seems unattainable.

Bottom line: If you want to recreate your personality, you are looking for a change and this article will help you do that.

How long does it take to recreate your character?

On average, it takes about 66 days to recreate your personality. In a fascinating study conducted by psychology researcher Philippa Lally, 96 volunteers changed their eating, drinking, or physical activity habits - like drinking a bottle of water at lunch or running for 15 minutes before dinner - for 12 weeks.

The volunteers reported daily whether they practiced the new behavior and how much they felt that they did so automatically. The result was that, on average, it takes about 66 days for the new behavior to become automatic. This does not mean that it takes only 66 days to completely renew your personality, as it may take radically changing your circumstances or personality traits for several months and even years.

10 tips for recreating yourself

If you are desperate to change yourself, these tips will help you achieve it:

1. Create a model of your alter ego

Changing your personality requires imagining the person you want to become. Studies indicate that trying to imagine yourself in the future is difficult, as people who suspect their future personality initially feel that they envision a completely different person from who they are.

According to the Roman philosopher Cicero, the alter ego is a second self or a trusted friend. It is another person that you can imagine and have a conversation with. For example, If you want to become a successful entrepreneur, you might get inspired by imagining Oprah Winfrey or Warren Buffett.

Self-modification achieves great results by letting go of your previous beliefs and self-image. You may be overly self-critical and self-blaming, but if you imagine yourself as someone with altruistic values, like Bill Gates, it will be easy to get inspired by his principles.

One of the best examples of how to use self-change is the famous pop singer "Halsey." Her real name is "Ashley Nicolette Frangipane," but she created the name "Halsey" as an artistic nickname to recreate herself and become a completely different person.

"I had to become completely different because I felt that Ashley could not achieve fame and success. I thought if I created Halsey, I might achieve what I aspired to," Halsey says.

Now think and decide what trait or skill you want to develop in your character?

Find out who you want to be by doing a brainstorming session, asking yourself:

• Did you admire any of the famous personalities that influenced your childhood?
• Is there any real or fictional character who possesses qualities that you admire?
• If you don't have a character that inspires you, can you create a character from your imagination and give it the values ​​you would like it to have?

Once you have the model of the character you want to have, it is time to analyze and dive deeply into this character through these questions:

• What does this character do?
• Who are the people that this character spends time with?
• What is the daily routine of this character?
• How would you describe their life?
• What values ​​do they share with you?
• What values ​​do you have that you would like to share with this character?

During meditation, imagine that you have become the character you invented, and draw inspiration from them when you feel nervous or face a challenge or difficult decision. You can also add a picture of them on your mobile phone or wear a piece of clothing that reminds you of them. Over time, you may find that you have become the character you created in your imagination. The ability to create a character and then emulate it is a compelling technique you can use to your advantage.

2. Practice the hobbies your alter ego practices

Sometimes it is difficult to recreate your personality when you feel powerless. The only way to eliminate this feeling is by changing your passion, thoughts, and lifestyle. After remembering the characters that inspire you or creating the character using your imagination, you must determine the hobbies that this character practices.

So ask yourself these questions:

• What books does the character you take inspiration from read?
• What are the hobbies of this character?
• Whom does this character spend free time with?

When you answer these questions, there is a correspondence between these answers and what you do. Therefore, you should not repeat the same hobbies that you do but choose hobbies that you have never tried before. There is a saying of the American writer and novelist Joyce Carol Oates: “The only rule of art performances and literary writings is not to bore the audience.”

You can project this saying onto your life. Try to invent something new every time you get bored. Instead of spending your free time watching TV, why don't you try to discover something new about yourself?

3. Define your most important goals

You can become the person you always dreamed of, which means achieving your most important goals. So start by writing a list of your top 20 goals, then focus on the 3 to 5 most important goals on the list.

The secret of this small number is that when a person tries to achieve a lot, they will often not achieve anything. Therefore, it is better to focus on a few goals only, as these goals that you have set are your main goals, and you must achieve them no matter what.

If you find it difficult to remember your goals, write them down on paper, stick them in the mirror, and read them before bed every day. After identifying your most important goals, you must prepare yourself for success by correctly setting up your life system.

4. Spend some time alone

If you feel a little lonely and it bothers you, you should address this issue. If you do not have a problem with loneliness, it may be helpful to know that solitude has several scientifically proven benefits.

However, there is a difference between loneliness and solitude. Feeling lonely is often associated with negative feelings, such as sadness and loss of passion, which you should avoid. On the other hand, solitude is a positive feeling that you are okay when you are alone.

Studies show that solitude can enhance your sense of freedom, creativity, intimacy, and self-discovery. You are not required to spend a long time alone, but just ten minutes a day makes you go deeper into yourself and know exactly what you want.

During your time alone, focus on these questions:

• Why do you want to recreate your personality?
• What choices and habits should you try and adopt?
• What choices and habits should be rejected?
• Will I continue down the same path when things get tough?

When you spend some time alone, you will be amazed at how clear your mind can be. So try to increase your time alone to get more intellectual clarity and avoid outside noise.

5. Recreate yourself professionally

Do you feel any of the following:

• You don't feel challenged enough in your career.
• You don't get paid enough, you work too hard, or you don't get enough recognition.
• You don't feel passionate about your work.

So maybe it's time for a change. Whether you're 30, 40, or 50, you can change your career. According to a survey by the "Indeed" website, the average age at which someone changes their job is 39.

Even if you haven't reached middle age, a job change can help you achieve your goal. So:

• Think seriously about your career path. If you haven't decided to change your career, try to learn about this topic by reading to get some inspiration.
• Prepare your CV in such a way as to impress any recruiter who views it.
• Objectively prepare your LinkedIn profile and be free from embellishment in the words you introduce yourself.
• Prepare yourself well, and focus on your body language so that it shows how professional you are. Ask the best questions in job interviews, and answer the best answers when you get a question.
• Start communicating in real life or online to get more opportunities to change your career.

The bottom line: It's normal to feel fear when you decide to change your job, but huge opportunities await you if you conquer your fears.

6. Choose the clothes that help you succeed

The clothes you wear can play a big role in achieving success. You can show your success and professionalism through what you wear. In a fascinating study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, researchers studied males in tuxedos, workout pants, or their usual clothing. Then they asked them to converse with another person.

The result was that males who dressed to reflect their professionalism were able to have more successful conversations, and males who dressed usually had lower levels of testosterone. So we are not exaggerating when we say that your clothes reflect your feelings. So choose your clothes to match the person you want to be.

7. Turn difficult circumstances into opportunities

Many feel forced to do things they do not want, whether at work or in daily life. For example, you may find that you are forced to:

• Picking up children from school.
• Staying at home without moving.
• Working on a project you don't like.

If you feel the same way, you must develop some coping skills. This means changing the situation so that it becomes beneficial to you, including your routine activities. You can use these activities to create more opportunities for your growth:

• If you have to pick up the kids from school, take this opportunity to make friendships with other parents. Other kids might start making friendships with your kids, which could end up with entertaining clubs that parents and children attend.
• If you have to stay at home without being able to move around, start an online business. You can use that extra income to fill your retirement fund.
• If you have to work on a project that you do not want, discover the skills required to master this work so that you become the best in this field among all your colleagues and become an indispensable person.

We mean that recreating your personality doesn't just come from making radical changes in your life, like your profession - though it is important - or other things. Regardless of your circumstances or what you do, you can make a big difference in your opportunities.

Here's a practical tip: Find something you don't want to do, and think about what you can do to change circumstances or if there are parts of your routine that you can use to create opportunities. If you can change one thing in your routine, you will make a big difference over time.

8. Organize your goal

A goal system is a planner, journal, or another type of record through which you keep track of how much progress you're making toward achieving your goal. It includes spaces for practical steps, whether you've already done them or are just thinking about them. Organizing your goals is essential and necessary because goal systems are the compass of your life.

Here is an example to illustrate what is meant: Imagine that you are the captain of a ship, your goal is to reach the next island, and your life system is the compass that helps you get there. You will encounter thunderstorms, big waves, and other hardships along the way, but in the end, you will get there because you know the direction that you will take.

Imagine the same scenario but without a compass. The result will inevitably be that you will get lost, and even if you are one degree away from your target, you will not reach the island. So you can use a notebook to set up your goal system, or you can use an outline planner and task management apps like Notion, Evernote, and others.

Goal systems can be complex or easy. If you are starting to set them up for the first time, we recommend that you prepare the basics at the beginning and then add to them later.

Here's how to get started with "The Notion" app:

• Create an account on the site, which is free.
• Start with a form, and you can search in Google for a Notion form for organizing life or a Notion form for organizing a goal. The second option is preferred.
• Click the "Duplicate" button at the top right to add the form to the homepage of your account.
• Start by filling in the schedule. Add your monthly goals and daily tasks to the weekly plan to help achieve the goals.

After setting up your goal system, you are ready to recreate yourself. Stick to your goal system, keep track of your executable tasks, and remember that every action makes you one step closer to achieving your primary goals.

9. Never stop reinventing yourself

This process does not end. Remember, whatever stage you are in now, life is limited to recreating your personality because, at every stage, you will face difficulties and obstacles. The more you can bear these difficulties now, the more you will be able to bear the difficulties of the future.

Think about the opportunities that make you face difficulties and learn from them. Try to face difficulties head-on, and test your endurance. You can enhance your resilience through several challenges such as:

• Health: Challenge yourself by running a half marathon or changing your eating habits to be healthier.
• Money: Learn how to request financing or solve problems as an entrepreneur.
• Thinking: Take control of your thoughts by limiting your use of social media or by learning more about your personality.

10. Maintain useful friendships and build more of them

A study by the University of Georgia found that people who recreate their personalities often become unhappy because when people acquire new personalities, they tend to end existing friendships. If you can keep your friends, or at least until you make new ones, you will most likely be happy despite the change.

As part of your recreating plan, think about the people you spend time with and ask yourself:

• Do the people I spend my time with support me?
• Do the people I spend my time with motivate me?
• Do the people I spend my time with give me a sense of freedom? Or do they make my constraints stronger?

The point of answering these questions is to make sure that you spend time with people who support recreating your personality to achieve success.