Note: This article is based on the work of the author "Mick," who tells us about the benefits of having confidence in the process to achieve success.
Although you are not learning to swim quickly, you trust the teacher's experience and guidance to get you to the desired result; that is, you trust the process that the teacher has established for you.
This is why the presence of a coach or teacher is always beneficial to help you acquire skills more quickly. However, this option is not always available, so you must learn on your own, which is difficult, especially when your mind begins to convince you of the unworthiness of what you are doing because you do not see results as quickly as you expect. In the absence of visible progress, you become impatient and self-conscious.
This article explains how to deal with this condition, what's preventing you from moving forward, and how to trust the process with the help of three simple tips.
What does it mean to "trust the process"?
When you trust the process, you put in consistent effort without being concerned with the immediate results.
The ability to master a skill has become increasingly rare in today's world. We have a high expectation for results, so when they do not materialize as quickly as we would like, we become discouraged and think that our efforts have been in vain. In other words, our commitments are too short-lived for us to succeed.
Naturally, there are other factors that contribute to success as well; however, continuity is crucial, and believing in the process is one way to readjust your attention to the actions rather than the result.
People therefore do not pay attention to the process, and the reason for this is that most of them think that success is only related to the efforts made. They think that success is directly proportional to the efforts, so the more efforts multiplied, the greater the success, while totally ignoring the time factor.
When we first start working, we still think that success increases as effort increases, even though we actually know that this is not the case. Because reality does not match this expectation, we feel that nothing we do is possible because we do not see the results as quickly as we would like.
This way of thinking is destructive and contradicts the process-trusting principle. The reason for this is that it is a results-oriented process, and when we value the results more than the process, we expose ourselves to the risk of emotional fluctuations. As an example, consider the following:
You are amazed and feel as if you own the world when the results exceed your expectations. But what if the results aren't what you expected? You will easily become frustrated, which will dampen your enthusiasm and make it difficult for you to take action throughout the process.
And now you can see how feeling frustrated at every failure causes a violent swing in emotions. You might be able to overcome your frustration the first time, try again, and regain your enthusiasm, but subsequent failures make it very difficult to get back on track.
However, you can better handle these emotional ups and downs after each failure if you trust the process. While we don't promise that you won't experience negative emotions, we do promise that you will handle them better. After considering everything mentioned above, you might need to change how you define success.
| Success is closely correlated with time and does not depend solely on effort |
Success is closely correlated with time and does not depend solely on effort; rather, the efforts add up over time to produce the major outcome. This implies that a crucial element in achieving success is time.
Every process and every effort will be accompanied by success and failure.If you let these outcomes dictate how you feel about your efforts, your path will be incredibly difficult. However, once you start to trust the process, you won't let the outcomes dictate how you feel.
Three tips to help you trust the process
1. Take the action that makes you slightly uncomfortable
If there is a secret to success, it is that you often value what you fear the most. So consider something you're trying so hard to avoid while also realizing that your quality of life will increase if you learn how to do it.
Do this without hesitation; the reason for this is that even if the outcome is negative, you will have gained valuable experience by taking this step and overcoming your fear.
One example is public speaking. Imagine how you will feel after your first public speaking experience; perhaps the result will be so bad that you swear you will never try it again, but imagine doing it ten times.
This experience may still be frightening for you despite the fact that you have done it so many times, but you continue to do it regardless of everything and feel that the tenth time is not as disturbing as the first experience. It goes without saying that when you do something for the 50th time, for example, you step outside of your comfort zone and become more confident with your performance, even though you may still feel some stress.
Even after 100 times of practice, you might still feel a little uncomfortable before giving a speech, but thanks to the repetition and the knowledge that you are good at what you do, you will gradually gain confidence.
As a piece of advice for public speaking, avoid speaking in front of a large audience if you find it difficult to do so. Start instead with two or three individuals and take your time to increase your confidence throughout the process.
Try to push the boundaries of your comfort zone a little bit. This is a great way to develop your self-confidence. The results you achieve are worth getting a little upset about because the confidence you gain from this practice extends to all aspects of your life.
2. Value your failure as much as you value your success
Most people are happy to celebrate their victories, but they get angry when they fail, and if this describes you, you might find that you overthink things more than you ought to.
We all desire potential failure to be avoided more than we desire the potential outcome, and when you are discouraged by failure, you will do anything to divert your thoughts from it.
Then, whenever you are presented with a challenge, your mind begins to consider what needs to be done. It wants to make sure that you succeed or that you won't be let down again.
Of course, success is rarely guaranteed, especially if you don't step outside of your comfort zone, as we discussed in the first tip. This is what keeps you from experiencing more success in your life.
Failures must be viewed as valuable first steps toward self-improvement and as learning experiences that will position you for success in the future if you truly want it.
| failure is necessary for us to grow as people more quickly |
Although success is the ultimate goal, failure is necessary for us to grow as people more quickly because it gives us the feedback we need to succeed more quickly.
Your life will change once you recognize these facts, and you'll enjoy having a more stable experience once you start to trust what you're doing and let go of emotional attachment to the results.
And even though you will always encounter obstacles, you will never feel the kind of unfavorable emotions that are pushing you toward the edge of the abyss.
3. Persist in your profession
To illustrate the significance of having faith in the process, let's use an analogy. Success is comparable to a tree that bears fruit that you are eager to harvest, but you won't see any of the fruit until it starts to fall naturally. This mechanism for success may have become apparent to you as you tried to learn various skills.
I've been practicing the handstand for the past seven months and have been trying to learn it for the past two years; it's a very challenging process.
When I think of people who have mastered this process in a matter of weeks or months, it makes me feel a little depressed because I frequently train for weeks without observing any progress.
But I've since learned to remain optimistic and press on. Because even though success won't always come quickly, as long as you keep up the performance, you'll know you're moving forward.
I've recently increased the consistency of my 20-second handstands, and all of a sudden I feel like I have more control.
This is unquestionably the result of months of practice and persistence throughout the process, even when I don't notice any progress at all. This is why persistence is the key to success.
Even though this principle is straightforward, it can be challenging to follow; however, by taking certain actions, you can strengthen your commitment to this principle. In order to succeed, you must, first and foremost, persevere in what you do. Regardless of the situation, you must train for your profession and persevere, especially on the days when you don't feel like it.
Setting and achieving small goals is an excellent way to develop the ability to persevere. Make your bed as a very basic first step, and then consider what else you can do the following morning to advance your cause. Consider a modest objective that is consistent with your desired results.
Start by recording a word on your phone to see if public speaking helps you reach your big goal. Start a brief blog and post it online if you want to learn how to write. Even if no one reads it, this is a great way to keep up the practice, and it makes you more tenacious.
| Perseverance is like a muscle, and you can develop it in any skill |
Trusting the process
Finally, we want to call attention to the negative types of people. Those individuals will tell you that what you are doing is pointless or foolish, so you should consider how they have the authority to make such judgments.
Do not let someone else's fears prevent you from achieving what you want, because these people frequently give up on their dreams and succumb to frustration. The only person who knows what works for you is you, so as long as you continue doing what you enjoy, keep up your performance, keep consistency in your work, and have faith in the process, you will succeed.
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