Through communication skills, a person is able to adapt to their surroundings because they become able to exchange cultures and experiences with others, understand their feelings, and overcome difficulties in various relationships, especially work relationships. This is through their ability to speak and express their ideas with great confidence, and then reach the goals they seek.
A diplomatic personality is a personality which possesses various communication skills in life, and diplomacy is an always-required characteristic. Because a person will be exposed in their life to many problems and obstacles that they must overcome in order to be able to complete the journey that they started with, and they will meet many people who oppose them in points of view, and they may have to work with them or live with them in the same environment, and then diplomacy must be one of their qualities.
Therefore, we will explain to you the concept of a diplomatic personality and how to be a diplomatic person in this article.
The concept of diplomatic personality
It is the personality that possesses many positive qualities that make it successful in forming good social relationships. As the word diplomacy means craftsmanship in managing the dialogue; hence, the diplomatic person is the one who can manage a successful dialogue in various areas of life because they know when, how, and where to speak, they also know how to tell the truth in a way that takes into account the feelings of the other party in order to avoid possible conflicts, and they are able to accept the feelings, ideas, and beliefs of others without taking offense.
Therefore, the presence of a diplomatic personality is very important to resolve the dispute and find common points between two conflicting parties.
Characteristics of a diplomat
The diplomatic personality has many qualities that can be classified into positive qualities (features) and negative qualities, and we will explain each of them:
Features of a Diplomat
The success of the diplomatic person in establishing good relations or fixing the bad ones is due to their possession of the following positive qualities:
1. Openness to experience
A diplomatic person has an open mind when they are placed in a new environment, by virtue of their work, studies, or other circumstances. They are ready to get to know the new environment and understand it through a good acquaintance with the people in it.
It is not enough to know only their cultures and traditions, they respect everything they know about them. Because this is the way to understand their way of thinking, and then understand their views on various matters even if they differ from their point of view. An open mindset is the basis for forming strong relationships with others, and it is the basis for other positive qualities that we will mention later.
2. Emotional stability
A diplomatic person is always in a calm mood. In various fields and relationships, some chaos must occur. That is, it can be said that chaos is inevitable in this life. Therefore, calmness is very necessary for many situations in which nervousness may make a big difference in results.
However, this does not mean that a diplomatic person does not get angry, because it is impossible to have a person who does not get angry, but a diplomat knows how to organise their emotions and manage them in an appropriate manner for the situation they are exposed to. That is we can describe the diplomatic person as a very patient person who enjoys a lot of stability that makes them able to accept the events that are taking place and to deal with challenges, pressures, and unexpected changes in life that sometimes cannot be expected.
3. Being responsible
It is not possible to achieve the desired goals of any relationship or work if the person does not possess a strong sense of duty that makes them have a high level of honesty, and this is what distinguishes the diplomatic person, as they are able to assume responsibility in daily life in its various aspects, and they can always be relied on in the most difficult and simple matters. Also, this is because they do not underestimate anything.
4. Kindness
A diplomatic person tries to make others as happy as possible, as we notice that they are interested in providing a hand of help and assistance to them, and perhaps their sympathy for others is what makes them able to understand their feelings. In addition to that it helps a person to understand their own feelings as well, and keeping the other party happy is an essential part of the work of a diplomat in gaining what they want from any relationship with others, but on the condition that they remain honest in their thoughts and behavior as well; That is, they never seek to achieve their goals by fraud or lying.
5. The constant desire to socialize
You might think that this trait is similar to the openness to experience that we talked about above, except that they are slightly different. This is because a diplomatic person tends by nature to communicate with others always without being shame, as they are a good speaker and a good listener as well and are always ready to get to know people in their various fields of work or interests in life even if they do not have to because they are somewhat curious, introversion prevents a person to become a diplomat.
6. Objectivity
A diplomatic person is able to deal with others away from any political or religious considerations, so they are able to solve any problem without bias to a particular party just because of religious affiliation or other considerations that sometimes exaggerate problems between people or may be the cause of the problem.
Disadvantages of the diplomatic personality
Despite the positive traits that we talked about, each character has negative traits as well, and here are the most prominent of them:
1. Self-doubt
The diplomatic person always asks themself, especially in the crises and problems they are trying to solve. As they analyze their actions to see if they are correct or not, and as a result of their active imagination, they think carefully before making any decision in life, especially fateful decisions, and although we all doubt ourselves, the matter can develop into an obstacle to carrying out the required tasks and achieving the goals that they want in life.
2. Negative feelings
A diplomatic person directs negative feelings associated with things that happened in the past or fears about the future to the outside world.
How do I become a diplomat?
It is not difficult for a person to become a diplomatic person, all you have to do is to follow the following points:
1. Effective Communication
A person must have an effective way to communicate with people, and this is done through the following:
1.1. Careful selection of words when speaking
Especially when talking about sensitive matters with others, it is not possible to talk about someone’s grief without sympathizing with them, for example, when someone fails in something you can say to them: “I am confident that you will succeed next time” instead of saying: “Don't try again you may fail again and grieve again.”
If you want to decline an invitation to a party, for example, instead of just answering with the word "no", you can say: "It is very nice of you to invite me, but I have a lot of work and I have to say no, but next time I will make sure to come."
1.2. Choose a good communication style
Every situation in life has an appropriate method for it and the success of any matter that needs that, for example, if you want to tell a colleague of unpleasant news related to work, you can go to them and tell them after introducing the topic as gradually as possible, and not by sending a short message that just contains the news.
1.3. Follow the etiquette of dialogue
This is to ensure that the party you are interlocuting respects and listens to your opinions well, for example, one should not interrupt them while speaking, or move to another conversation before the end of the previous discussion, or raise their voice while speaking.
1.4. Be open to new ideas
It is not enough to listen to what the other side says, however, respect for their opinion and interest must also be shown, for example, during a conversation, you can say to the speaking party: “And what happened after that?” Some behaviors indicate a lack of interest, so you should stay away from it, such as crossing the legs and shaking one of them, or looking at something other than the speaker.
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1.5. Accept criticism
Others must criticize you, regardless of your professional, scientific or even social level, so you have to be as calm as possible even if the criticism is not constructive.
2. The ability to deal with difficult situations
This is done through the following:
2.1. Data collecting
A diplomatic person possesses a lot of facts and information that make them able to answer embarrassing questions, for example, before you attend a meeting, you must prepare well and collect all information related to the subject of the meeting. This is done by resorting to people with expertise, scientific books, or the internet, so that you are not embarrassed when they are asking you questions.
2.2. The ability to debate
This is very important to reach satisfactory solutions with people who differ from you in opinion and thinking, as this is not possible if you are not always willing to negotiate.
2.3. Choose the right time
You must realize when you have to speak and when you have to be silent, because sometimes a person requests something or speaks of an idea with a person at an inappropriate time, and the discussion turns into a disagreement, such as asking your manager for leave after the end of a bad meeting or when business accumulates in the company, so he refuses badly despite that taking leave is one of the natural rights, but you did not choose the right time.
3. The ability to solve problems
This is done through the following:
3.1. Patience
As we said earlier, patience is one of the characteristics of a diplomatic person, and this is evident when a problem occurs or when intervening to resolve a dispute between two parties. As you must be patient to the utmost degree, no matter how intense the dispute is, with the aim of finding a logical solution that satisfies everyone.
3.2. Empathy for others
You must be able to understand other people's points of view and not belittle anyone because they disagree with you in opinion or as a result of your bias towards a certain culture, politics or religion, and you have to sympathize with everyone without thinking about certain considerations, since all people are equal.
3.3. Good analysis ability
It is not possible to reach an appropriate solution without a good analysis of the problem and seeing the matter from different sides. This is to know the pros and cons of all the points of view presented to solve a problem.
In conclusion
Diplomacy is very necessary for a person to succeed in their relationships in various areas of practical, emotional, social, and other life as well. Of course, we do not say that diplomacy is the basic condition for success, but being a diplomatic person means that success is the only possibility that is always in front of you.
As we noted above, this trait is not exclusive to a particular person, but we can all acquire it; And that is by following the aforementioned points, and you may suffer from difficulty at first, but with the passage of time it becomes easier, so that in the end diplomacy becomes one of your qualities that you can never give up.
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