Note: This article is based on the work of the writer Marc Chernoff, in which he tells us about the most important ideas that enhance our inner confusion and comfort our souls.
There is a way to stay sane and wise in crazy times and situations. You can eliminate all the chaos and madness inside you, caused by the actions of others, the past, and uncontrollable events, by observing your thoughts without being influenced or giving your opinion.
It is a matter of silence and watching ideas as they pass through your mind without intervening in them, evaluating them, or even expressing an opinion about them because expressing an opinion and making judgments very quickly means that you are not a neutral party; The moment you rush to make judgments on those ideas and describe them as good or bad, you will have participated recklessly in the chaos surrounding you.
It takes time to distinguish between observing your thoughts and responding or reacting to them; Still, once you distinguish between them, there is a great surprise waiting for you, which is that you are not the thoughts themselves, nor the chaos that affects those thoughts; Rather, you are just a witness or spectator who can give up and move away from those thoughts, change your mind and transcend, or rise from all the disturbances caused by them.
The process of observing thoughts is the actual formula for full alertness; because as you become more adept at monitoring your thoughts, those chaotic, confusing, and vague thoughts begin to disappear little by little from your life; you can think clearly about what your mind is free of frivolous and meaningless chatter as if it were a moment of enlightenment in your life in which you become - perhaps for the first time - a human being who is wise, and free, and not governed by preconceived ideas.
Now you can begin applying the process of the new ideas that will support and enhance your inner freedom and continue to lighten your soul and make it comfortable.
Effective ideas to soothe your soul and make it feel at ease
1. You are in the progressing process, which means that you will achieve your goals and objectives little by little and not at once
When you feel that you are in your place without any progress, and you are in a vicious circle to the point of sweating from the intensity of tension, know that we are all exposed to a similar feeling sometimes, especially when the requirements of life are huge, and work is challenging and full of challenges, and this does not mean that you have to give up; but make adjustments and changes as necessary, while continuing to strive and progress gradually; You are not a failed person whose place is in a vicious circle; Rather, you are moving forward in a continuous and gradual success, but the path of success in front of you is twisted, and you have come along how more than you realize.
2. You are always in the right place, and you can move on to your next step
None of your current circumstances can prevent you from making progress in your life, and all you have to decide on is what to do next; that is, only the teeny next step in your life; It is so easy. You do not have to control everything and have answers to all the questions in your mind to move on to your next step and move forward in your life.
You can improve your performance and provide better results when you only give your best until you become wiser and more rational and have greater awareness; Then, you can improve your performance and provide better results.
3. Mistakes and unsuccessful attempts are the cornerstones of success and development
Even if you do not succeed in something, your failed attempt remains a necessary practice to increase your experience. Everything in this life requires training and practice. Therefore, you must accept your past faults and the mistakes you have not yet made and take them or invest them in developing yourself.
Sometimes you have to fail to be that successful person in the long term. Therefore, do not allow fear of making a wrong decision to prevent you from making any decisions. Those who do not care that failure is inevitable are the ones who achieve their dreams and reach their goals.
4. Smile is a result that occurs when you reduce complaining in your life naturally
There is no need to complain about life and its events because complaining and whining will not change anything at all, so make sure to spend the minutes that you would have wasted complaining, enjoying the beauty of life, and having the strength and wisdom to seize the present in which you live and invest every minute of it, and if you find yourself attracted to several directions, and focus on several tasks without paying enough attention, allocate time to rearrange your priorities and bias for the things that you give the greatest value and appreciate in your life, as the critical things in your life are determined by your decision alone, and nothing can exhaust you and overwhelm your life unless you allow it.
5. There is no need to explain everything
Sometimes amazing things happen in our lives suddenly from where we do not know, and we cannot always understand them; Still, we have to trust and believe in them and know that each of us has the desire to examine and question everything that happens in all stages and steps of our lives. It is sometimes wise to have some faith without knowing the hidden things that happen to us, and we pray that the Lord will bestow His blessings on us from where we do not count.
6. The ability to let go of things is more important than the ability to hold on to them
At first, it may seem strange or unfamiliar; Still, all you need in your life and emotional relationships is to practice abandonment and letting go because sticking to things and people is easy, and there is no need to learn it, so loosen up a little bit of the power of clinging to things. It's okay to loosen your grip on them.
We often stick to them very strongly for a long time without even thinking about it and not realizing that the essential things are not what we have when we cling to them well; Rather, they stay with us despite our desertion and abandonment of them, so what remains with them is what really exists.
7. Perfection is not a requirement for the importance of your relationships with others
It is impossible to find someone who will never hurt or disappoint you. There is no perfect or ideal person. Expecting to find the perfect person will always disappoint you. So always remember this, and choose people who deserve pain and effort to bring into your life.
True love and true joy will not give us that feeling of satisfaction and happiness without making a little effort and feeling some pain for them. So take the necessary time, be patient enough, and work with your loved ones to provoke true, constructive, and meaningful feelings.
8. There are no benefits to hating others
It must be remembered that no human being is useless or worthless when we can understand their story and the nature of their life and desires; There is no life trivial or nothing, even the cruelest and mean people- if we know the depths of their hearts - have good things to intercede for them at least a little; so stay away from them carrying peace and tranquility in your heart without planting feelings of hatred towards them inside you.
9. Forgiveness is giving yourself a chance to develop
Forgiveness is not holding on to the person who wronged you or hurt your feelings; it is about accepting what happened, reconciling with them, feeling calm and peaceful towards them, then advancing in your life.
So, forgive those who wronged and harmed you in the past, but more importantly, forgive yourself because you allowed others to hurt you. When you excuse them, you take at least one step in self-discovery and take one forward over all those who still hold old grievances and grudges that hinder their progress in life.
In conclusion
The ideas of attendance, presence, and acceptance did not permeate this article by chance, without which we would lose all our lives, which is what a conversation I had earlier today with an 82-year-old trainee and coaching recipient reminded me about the things we regret.
I started the chat session by saying - I shared this with her permission -: “Why did not I learn to accept and appreciate everything life offers me and to deal with every day I lived as if it were my last? What I regret most is the number of times I believed in tomorrow. ” I hope we all learn from her words.
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