Note: This article is based on the work of the writer Marc Chernoff, in which he tells us about some of the bad excuses that people use to justify their failure.
If you pay close attention to your self-dialogue, you will find that these beliefs are just excuses. If you desperately want to achieve something, you will find a way to achieve it; if you don't want it, you will inevitably find an excuse not to do so. Then, this excuse will be a part of your personality, which makes many of us unhappy.
A lot of people tend to have this self-destructive trait, which is making excuses. I often catch myself doing so, too. For this, it is better to refrain from making excuses that we will regret later on. For this, stop explaining why you can't do something and start focusing on all the reasons why you should do so; no more negativity, laziness, quick fixes, blaming, procrastination, and excuses.
20 lame excuses that can get in your way of achieving what you want
1. It is too late
It is never too late to live a life that makes you proud. It is never too late to change your direction, and if you aren't living your life according to your values and goals, then you're wasting it.
It is never too late or never too early to achieve what you desire and become the person you wish to be. You can pause and resume whenever you want, you can change or stay the same, and you can achieve the best or worst, as it is up to you to choose.
Dare to do new things, try to spend time with people who support you and help you grow, and live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not living it, dare to make a change.
2. I'm not good enough yet
This is nonsense. You just have to do your best for what you want, and do not be afraid of making mistakes because making mistakes means that you are experiencing new things. For this, try new things, learn, live, push yourself forward, and change yourself and the world for the better. We can only come up with something of value by making mistakes, and if you really want to be passive until you are ready, then you will wait forever.
3. I seek the approval of others first
Feel free to break the rules. There is nothing wrong with being extraordinary sometimes as long as you're confident with your abilities and your chosen path suits you. You may lose some friends when you choose to be true to yourself.
What's important is to ignore those distractions and keep focusing on your goal. You can boost your self-confidence only when you don't seek the approval and acceptance of others. Therefore, if your close friends show resentment of you being honest with yourself, it's time to have new friends.
4. I'm trying to avoid criticism
Surprisingly, people don't judge you all the time. Ironically enough, while you worry about what people think of you, they also worry about what you think of them. Being aware of this will help you get rid of your fear of committing mistakes and will urge you to achieve more of what you want. Liberating yourself from these fears will automatically liberate others from theirs.
5. I don't deserve this
This excuse is divided into two parts. The first makes you think you don't deserve anything beautiful, such as falling in love, respect, success, etc. The second one makes you feel that you're a misfortune. However, in both cases, this excuse limits and burdens you. For this, it's time to get over it. When you ask yourself "Why me?", ask instead, "Why not me?" Be sure that life doesn't favor anyone since everyone is afflicted differently. Therefore, learn to accept your life as it is and be grateful for what you have.
6. I don't want to lose or regret
In the end, you won't regret the things you did as much as the things you didn't, as it is always better to strive and face some disappointments than to live with a bunch of unfulfilled wishes. It is better to live a life full of experiences and mistakes that you learned from than a heart full of regret and empty dreams. If you do so, you will be proud and content when reflecting on your life instead of regretting not living your life fully.
7. This is pointless
Such a statement is a self-defeating one, yet we use it often. For this, try to eliminate it from your life. You can always take advantage of what you're doing; it could be helping yourself and others, trying to improve your life or work, or simply, you're just trying, which means that you're not living in a passive self-defeating state. Instead of passively wasting your life, you should work hard to develop and implement your ideas, adding value to the world, even on a personal level.
8. That’s so complex
Every great value requires hard work. Think about it this way. When was the last time you were rewarded for an easy task? Generally, the right and hard things are two sides of the same coin. For this, instead of underestimating someone's hard work, try to act accordingly. Life won't get you what you wish for, but what you work hard for.
9. I'm unfortunate
This is totally wrong, and other people are more unfortunate than you. Being fortunate all the time is just a myth, and if you consider someone to be lucky, it is because they dedicated a lot of time and effort to achieve this.
Therefore, taking action and starting to act instead of making excuses will work wonders on your luck path. After all, luck arises when work and preparation meet with the available opportunity.
10. My past experiences burden me
There comes a time when you have to choose between turning the page or closing the book, as some stories must end before new ones begin. Life is too short to spend it at war with yourself. So, letting go and allowing the past to pass by in peace is your first step toward achieving the happiness you seek.
11. It wasn’t supposed to turn out this way
Trying to resist our reality will only result in being held hostage to it. For this, the secret of happiness and peace is to let nature take its course. However, with the passage of time, you will find that life isn't necessarily easier or harder than you expected; it is simply that things didn’t turn out the way you expected them to be. This isn't a bad thing. Rather, it makes life more enjoyable, and adopting a positive mindset will help you have a more pleasant take on life.
12. It's out of my control
You can't have control over what happens in your life, but indeed, you can control your response to what happens. Your strength lies in the way you respond to external events.
13. My circumstances prevent me from doing so
Nothing is impossible. Josh Blue is a comedian with cerebral palsy. Nick Vujicic is a world-famous preacher and motivational speaker who has no limbs. Kyle Maynard has no arms or legs either and is an award-winning mixed martial arts athlete who excels in athletic performance. ESPY is a motivational speaker known for being the first amputee to reach Mount Kilimanjaro without the aid of prosthetics.
Also, there are plenty of artists who shine orally, runners who win races on prosthetic legs, brilliant writers whose fingers never touch a keyboard, and dozens of other successful people with physical or mental disabilities who refuse to let their circumstances hold them back.
14. I'm not ready to commit
Don't use this excuse to put something off forever. If it's exciting, check your schedule and ask yourself, "When can I commit to it?" and choose the path that makes your job enjoyable and fruitful. However, if you do not want to commit, be honest and admit that you are not interested. People always prefer honesty over evasiveness; you'll feel less stressed when you cancel unnecessary commitments.
15. My family obligations prevent me from doing so
Of course, balancing your family obligations with any kind of intrinsic personal goals is difficult. While writing this article, Angel and I had a newborn, and we were so busy. Although it was challenging, it was possible to balance between both, and if we can strike that balance, so you definitely can too.
All it takes is self-control and adopting a positive mindset. However, at the end of the day, you may feel tired and uncomfortable at times. However, keep moving, though, and your stamina will increase. This stamina won't only help you achieve your goal more effectively, but it will allow you to enjoy your family time as well.
16. I'm content with what I have
The most common and deadly addiction is the search for comfort. Why should you pursue your greater goal when you have 324 channels to watch, a comfortable chair to lie on, and a lot of delicious snacks? But the truth is that the growth and development of your abilities begin at the end of your comfort zone. Stepping out of your comfort zone will put things in perspective that you can't understand right now, and open doors for opportunities that you otherwise wouldn't have seen.
17. No one understands me
Everyone has their own life to worry about, everyone is busy, and at the end of the day, no one has the time or energy to figure out anyone else's problems. If you want someone to understand you, just reach out and make it easy for them. Stop messing around, say what you feel clearly, and remember that it isn't necessary for everyone to understand and agree with you.
18. No one cares about my interests
Can you imagine what would happen if everyone who supported an important cause took such a stand? We wouldn't have any charities, economy cars, health discoveries, peace efforts, literacy campaigns, etc. Forget about what others think, and care about an issue because of its importance. Take a serious stand, and if you really care, advocate what you care about. Additionally, help others understand your motives whether they agree with you or not.
19. I've had my share of losing
Everything will be all right in the end, and if it isn't, it's not the end. We've all gone through some tough times, and you'll probably go through some more in the future, too. However, the difficulties are worth it. It helps build your character and gives you some lessons that are essential for your growth. I can attribute some of the best things in my life right now to the difficult situations I've been through. So, when things seem impossible, or you feel like you will never progress, just know that you will eventually look back and be amazed at the progress you have made.
20. I can't go on with my beloved ones
This is a really heart-touching excuse; however, it makes no sense to be sad forever due to the departure of a loved one. Instead, be thankful that one day your paths crossed and made you happy in some way, even if it was only for a short while. Change brings life, and people do come and go, and that's totally fine.
Just because someone you loved left you doesn't mean that you have to neglect everyone else who is still by your side. Keep appreciating what you have, and be grateful for your past experiences.
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