You were going in the right direction; you were motivated enough to move forward in your life, and now you can't move forward because of the uncertainty that grips you. You need support, but you don't have any support.
You doubt whether you will be strong enough to control your destiny or that you are destined to be a slave to your desires and people's opinions of you, and you know that if you have the courage to start on a journey of self-improvement, you have the courage to complete it and pursue it throughout your life.
But before moving on, You must understand the factors that can keep you motivated or that can distract you from your goal.
Four obstacles that kill your motivation
1. Start out on your own
Starting out on your own has both an upside and a downside. The positive side is that you will progress quickly, but if you work out of genuine self-love, even the positive side of starting alone will become a negative side, as the faster you progress, the weaker the effects you will gain in your pursuit of self-fulfillment.
The downside to starting on your own is that you will lose motivation sooner than you would if you had company to encourage you. So if you want to keep your spirits high while making a big personal change or in any area of life, keep getting motivated from your support circle.
2. Stay with your current social circle
Although maintaining an old friendship, romantic or family relationship is a sign of strength of character, it may not help you in your quest for self-improvement.
Your current social circle knows everything about you, even your weaknesses and what helped you overcome those weaknesses, and these people are the best sources for you to benefit from information about your personality and what may suit you, and yet this knowledge can be very powerful, or it may be These people's perceptions that flow from this knowledge are so constrained that they will continue to impose their opinions on the notes of encouragement and support that you will receive from them.
For example, do you think "you look younger" will boost your confidence in your strategy when you know you haven't done half of what you set out to do yet?
Another downside to being dependent on these people is that they hold a number of false beliefs about you. It is possible that you have passed a certain point in your life where you blamed others for your problems, and they still think that you did so until now. Then they will keep reminding you of this part of the past, which will hold you back from moving forward.
Of course, I don't mean that you should avoid your friends and family to rebuild yourself. All I'm saying is to find new friends to share your journey to fulfillment with.
3. Improve all areas of your life at once
When we realize that there is room for improvement in ourselves, we find that we need to develop in more than one area of our personality, and the result is clear: we will try to magically improve all these aspects, and we succeed in developing all these traits with little effort.
But is this what really happens?
After following a great and perfect routine for a week, or after enjoying a healthy and beautiful figure for a few months, or after staying at the top of the list of top performers at work for a certain period of time, we fall back into our comfort zone and feel lost.
If this is also happening to you, then you are a victim of the third obstacle, which is to start improving all areas of your life together. Taking each step separately will keep you motivated for a longer period of time, and remember that success is only achieved with persistence and deliberation.
4. Improving negative traits that are not visible in you
If you have several areas to improve, and you don't know which one to improve first, you may choose a simple area that drags your self-improvement system into another hurdle, which is improving a hidden negative trait.
His hurdle is an extension of the second hurdle. If we begin to improve a habit that does not produce a clear effect, we will destroy even the slightest motivation that we may get from our current circle of support. You will start practicing your good habits, and these habits will start making a difference in the hidden part of your life.
But your colleagues, oblivious to these subtle improvements, will keep noticing your most obvious traits and telling you that your efforts don't match the difference they notice.
So, if you want to have a permanent source of motivation once you take a step towards self-love, you need others to accept your commitment to your goal as soon as possible. Give your family members a chance to give you motivation by showing them your gains.
In conclusion
What did you conclude from this article? Do you think you're ready to restart your journey toward self-realization? Or do you need to recover from a motivational hurdle that you have encountered lately? And is it okay to wait and waste weeks, months, or even years of your life waiting for the right time? If you decide to start moving now, which is the only right thing toward self-improvement, how can you prepare?
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