When people are asked to describe the best and worst leaders they have ever worked with, they ignore innate characteristics - such as intelligence, openness, attractiveness, etc. - and focus on qualities that are totally under the leader's control, such as communication, humility, and positivity.
These words and others describe leaders who are skilled in emotional intelligence. Research data conducted by Talent Smart on more than a million people shows that leaders who possess these qualities are very liked and outperform their counterparts who do not have them tremendously.
Emotional intelligence helps you become a beloved leader, which is a flexible skill you can develop in contrast to constant innate characteristics, such as your cognitive intelligence (IQ).
Key behaviors shared by emotionally intelligent leaders
Here are ten key behaviors that emotionally intelligent leaders have in common that make them extremely likable:
1. They have relationships with everyone
Loved leaders make people feel like they're having a deep, face-to-face conversation, as if they're the only important person in the zone, even if the place is very crowded, as lovable leaders communicate on a very personal and emotional level. They never forget that they're dealing with flesh-and-blood humans.
2. They are easily accessible
Beloved leaders believe that everyone, regardless of status or influence, deserves their time and attention, so they make everyone feel valued and important, and that's what they really see in people.
3. They are humble
If the leader is arrogant, they will not get the love of others. Therefore, the beloved leaders do not act as if they are better than you because they do not believe in it, but they see their leadership position as an addition to serving those who follow them.
4. They have a positive attitude
Loved leaders always maintain a positive outlook, and this is reflected in how they describe things. Also, they can share their vision and ideas with others, and meet the people who make their company's products and visit them, even in undeniably negative situations. Loved leaders have hope, and believe that they can help make tomorrow better than today.
5. They balance successes and failures
When it comes to the achievements and failures of beloved leaders, they take things quietly, don't brag about their accomplishments with pride, and don't get very upset when making mistakes. Also, they taste success without seeing themselves as better than others, and smoothly admit failure without indulging in it. They learn from both, and they move on.
6. They are generous
We've all worked with managers who hold something from us, whether it's knowledge or resources. They act as if they're afraid you'll outperform them if they put everything you need to do your job at your hand.
On the other hand, your beloved leaders are very generous with others; they want you to perform better than anything else, as they understand that this is their job as leaders and they are confident enough to never worry that your success will affect them. They even believe that your success is theirs.
7. They demonstrate Integrity
Loved leaders inspire trust and admiration through their actions, not just words. Many leaders may say that integrity is essential to them, but beloved leaders show it through their actions because if a leader doesn't have integrity, they will not be loved, no matter what they do.
8. They understand people
Loved leaders know how to read people because they know that nonverbal communication is usually more important than conversations, and they notice facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice to understand what people think. In other words, they possess a heightened social awareness and significant emotional intelligence skills.
9. They appreciate the potential
Robert Brault said, “Charisma does not make people love you as much as it makes people love themselves when you are around,” so beloved leaders see the best in their employees. They even make sure that everyone sees it too. They help people improve their talents, themselves, and their work.
10. They share their experiences
Daniel Quinn once said, “Charisma only attracts people's attention, and once you have their attention, you must have something to tell them.”
Beloved leaders understand that their knowledge and experience are essential to the success of everyone who follows them, so they communicate regularly with people to share what they have - as opposed to small talk -and pretend nothing is true because they don't have to.
In conclusion
The acquisition of people's love is not innate, but it is the result of acquired skills necessary for your professional success. Like other professional skills, you can study the people who own it and learn from them, so try these ten strategies and monitor their impact.
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