Let’s be real, we all want attention and we all need it. No shame in that. What we should focus on, though, is how we ask for this attention and why we want it in the first place. Through this blog, we will be going further into the details of this argument, so stick around with us for this quick and useful read.
The Right Ways to Get Someone’s Attention:
To stay on the safe, unharmful side, make sure to always look for ways to keep your attention-seeking healthy and mature. Listed below are some of our top tips for keeping it right and rational:
1. Be Approachable:
In order to get people’s attention, you have to look pleasant, approachable, and likeable. You wouldn’t talk to someone who’s always frowning or someone who has menacing body language, right? Think in that sense before you think about earning people’s attention. In addition to that, take care of your appearance and try to always look nice because that’s reassuring to people.
2. Keep in Mind That Attention is Earned:
Attention can be asked for in one way or another, but it is never forced in any sense of the word. If someone isn’t showing you any signs of an open door, then you try to change their mind by showing good intentions and interest rather than forcing yourself on them or trying to buy their attention with gifts.
3. Learn How to Be a Great Storyteller:
One of the best tools to capture the attention of everyone around you is storytelling. Who doesn’t love to hear a good story? People are captivated by stories and are affected deeply by them. It has been shown that a good story can affect your neurochemistry, which impacts your behavior in the long run. The power of storytelling is why leaders around the world use it as a tool for persuasion and influence.
4. Stand Out From The Crowd:
We are living in an exponentially expanding world, and it is more important than ever to stand out from the crowd. It is best to develop your perspective if you want to stand out. Get your opinions from more than just the news. Educate yourself, think, discuss, debate, formulate your opinions, and support them with evidence. This affects both your life and your work. Observe that authorities and politicians have a lot of opinions, so that's why they get invited to speak, and that's why the media interviews them because they are intriguing and entertaining. They always have something new to bring to the table, which piques people’s interest in them.
5. Stand Out as a Communicator:
Good communication skills are the key to unlocking everyone’s interest in you. Whenever you are faced with a complicated topic you cannot explain to people, keep yourself in your room and figure it out for yourself. It's through communication that you grow, and it's through communication that you stand out as a great and interesting person to connect with. It will be a delight for people to hear what you explained, as somebody else already did the hard work for them. It is natural for people to believe that you have a solution to their problems if you can explain their problems more clearly than they can. Before you have even presented the solution to your listeners, they will be sold if you are able to solve complex problems well for them, which gives you higher status in their lives.
6. Become a More Expressive Person:
You can express your ideas using your hands, eye contact, face, voice, body, and the space around you. It is common for people to hold back because they are unaware of their limits. Learning about your limits is best achieved by taking a public speaking class that provides video feedback and asking for professional advice.
7. Train Your Emotions:
People are attracted to positive people due to the fact that their emotions are infectious. How often do you feel accomplished, satisfied, powerful, happy, loved, etc.? Your daily efforts should be devoted to cultivating and building these emotions. We tend to focus on anxiety, stress, scarcity, fear, the educational system, and the economy. If you stop conjuring your positive emotions and training them to be there for you on a daily basis, eventually they will all fade away and you will be left with nothing but negativity. It shouldn’t be this way; you can make a difference for yourself. Try to go back to your happiest memories and remind yourself of everything you’re grateful for in your life on a daily basis to keep that positive side of your life alive and well and, most importantly, present at will.
What to Avoid Doing in the Future?
1. Never Try to Buy Your Way Through Anything:
This is a huge red flag, and if you’re doing it, you have to stop it immediately. As mentioned before in this blog, buying someone’s attention with gifts and nights out won’t get you anywhere. In fact, this type of behavior will make people resent you in the long run, as it makes you appear as a manipulative and dishonest person.
2. Give People Their Personal Space:
The most important thing about building a good reputation that makes you more popular is being able to take “no” for an answer and knowing when to stop talking or being in someone’s own personal space. You have to respect the fact that people have their own things to deal with and can’t be present for you all the time.
3. Never Fish for Compliments:
That is the first telltale sign of a toxic attention seeker; you don’t want to be viewed that way. A compliment is pleasant for a reason; don’t spoil it for yourself.
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