Shaken Self-Confidence: Causes and Therapy

Without a doubt, the foundation of social growth and revival is the healthy person. They must be in a healthy state of mind in order to perform their duties to the best of their abilities.

One of the most crucial aspects of mental health is self-confidence, which is the foundation of success, the primary source of human happiness, and the source of their sense of stability and security. Failure starts when one gives in to feelings of pessimism, hesitation, insecurity, and low self-worth.

Self-confidence refers to a person's perception of their own value, both inside and outside of their community. Confidence is not a deceptive superficial appreciation or narcissistic self-love; rather, it is a deep kind of self-respect. It is the accurate comprehension of what makes a person great and how to apply this greatness to overcome life's challenges and obstacles, giving them the courage to continue forward and face life's obstacles head-on.

One of the things that everyone needs is confidence, since, no matter what their line of work, they will undoubtedly require it in one of the issues or circumstances they encounter. We shall discuss confidence in this post, as well as the causes of a lack of it. What is the treatment for these causes?

Confidence

Confidence is an individual's sense of self-worth and appreciation for their skills and identity. A person's propensity for psychological and social sufficiency fosters creative thinking, raises the likelihood that they will overcome barriers in life, and ultimately heightens their sense of psychological and social security in a variety of contexts.

According to Amal Al-Makhzoumi, confidence is a fundamental quality of a person that emerges during their early years. It is strongly linked to their psychological and social development and is solely dependent on their mental, physical, and psychological makeup for both their strengths and weaknesses.

conviction that one has in their goals, choices, skills, and potential. That is to say, confidence and belief in oneself do not equate to arrogance; rather, they constitute a form of purposeful assurance that one can succeed and realize their desired outcomes.

Conversely, a person who lacks confidence finds it difficult to communicate who they are, what they are capable of, and their qualities. The process of having trouble adjusting to new circumstances then starts, which results in withdrawal, introversion, and social isolation. When they realize that others are more capable than they are, they also turn to mimicking them.

A lack of confidence leads to behaviors such as reluctance and trouble making decisions on their own without seeking assistance from others. It also creates a sense of inferiority. They also accept and retract without stated grounds. Their lack of confidence causes them to be shy, have trouble making new friends or approaching strangers, distrust their own abilities and other people's intentions toward them, and think that the Lord has not given them the gifts that he has given to others.

They therefore believe that they are unlucky in terms of their mental and physical abilities, even though in reality they are unable to demonstrate these abilities. Because they might come out as less effective to others, they might try to attract attention in various ways, some of which could turn ugly, such as using violence and force. In certain circumstances, such as when they are committed to their work, this can also go well.

Reasons for low confidence

1. A depressing or unhappy childhood

It is well-known that a person's early months are when they first start to develop their feelings of confidence and self-worth. This takes the form of how the society around them responds to all of their demands, and as a result, as a child develops through different phases, their confidence shifts in response to the reactions of their loved ones. In order to develop confidence, elements like love, tenderness, kindness, and earning respect are all beneficial.

Conversely, weakening confidence is caused by factors like severe and persistent criticism, overprotection, and neglect, among other things. an unsteady family dynamic, all of which will erode their confidence.

2. Opinions of others

One of the major factors influencing someone's confidence is how they are treated by others. A person's confidence frequently rises when they have important people in their lives treating them with kindness, respect, and interest; otherwise, it doesn't hold true.

3. Inferiority complex

A person's confidence is weakened when they feel inferior to others in any way, be it academic, economical, psychological, artistic, or any other form of inferiority complex.

4. Observing others

Some people link their lives to the lives of others or their actions. We witness them observing someone and wonder, “Where did they go? What did they do? And who was it with? What do they know? What did they manage to achieve? How did they generate income? What did they do with it? What attire do they have on? From where did they get it?” and other things that won't help them personally; all they lose is their independence, and when they lose that, they lose confidence in themselves.

5. Ghost profits

Even while someone may think they have accomplished something by their acts, these accomplishments are really just made-up ones that they use to comfort themselves. When they come to realize that everything they had believed to be true was false, their confidence plummets, and they withdraw into themselves and become reclusive in order to avoid social interactions and judgment from others.

6. Exaggerated idealism

Some individuals like to get their work done perfectly, but when they fail to achieve what they want in the way they aspire to, they feel frustrated, and then they lose their confidence.

7. The self-image that a person creates in their mind

The person thinks that others are better than them and are superior to them, and that they are incapable of making progress or achieving what others have accomplished in life. When someone thinks about this too much, it becomes real to them, and they will condemn themselves to failure. This eventually lowers their confidence, which has detrimental effects.

Therapy for low confidence

1. Accept yourself

Assess your skills and flaws, identify areas for improvement, and never forget that there is no such thing as perfection—only the Lord is flawless. Focus entirely on developing the knowledge, abilities, and skills you lack.

2. Review your values

To prevent the influence of others on you, ask yourself if your life is guided by principles. If yes, define them and live according to them in a way that is appropriate for the society in which you live.

3. Venture out

If you want to succeed and feel more confident in yourself, you need to attempt taking chances and making decisions based on your options. You have to take risks and try new ventures in order to overcome your fear and move closer to success.

4. Don't drown in failure

It's perfectly reasonable to not let your past failures discourage you from trying new things in the future. Instead, make an effort to identify the reasons why those experiments failed, make the necessary corrections, and perform the experiment again.

5. Seek good vibes from everyone you interact

Anything that can deplete your energy should be avoided, including people who undervalue you. If a toxic relationship exists in your circle, get professional assistance to end it and maintain the healthy state of your mind. Mixing with negative people will only turn you into a negative person who lacks confidence and self-esteem. Instead, you should surround yourself with positive people who exude confidence, are upbeat, believe in their abilities, and can accomplish their goals.

6. Respect others and ask them to do the same for you

If you are not treated well by others you respect, then let them know that you expect them to treat you the way you treat them. Others need to know that they can no longer underestimate you.

7. Make a list of the pros and cons

If you want to take action, bring a paper and a pen and arrange the advantages and disadvantages of that action. Your ability to analyze well and clearly understand things will raise your confidence and lead you to success.

8. Reflect

It is important to set up time for reflection on a regular basis, create strategies that are appropriate for your goals, track your progress, and figure out the problems you face and how to overcome them.

9. Focus on the positives and ignore the negatives

Always assess what makes you unique, consider the worth of everything you own, avoid dwelling on the negative, take another look at the positive aspects, and persuade yourself that everything will work out.

10. Empathize with others

Build good relationships with others based on mutual respect; help them when they need it; think about things from their point of view; find justifications for their actions; and be generous in your sincere compliments.

11. Be proactive

Have the courage to strike up a conversation with someone, get to know them, discuss and evaluate events together, and learn from their experiences. Your sense of belonging to a group and your interpersonal relationships will boost your confidence.

12. Avoid stressors

Avoid conversations that you know won't be beneficial to you. To release the tension that leads to negative thoughts, talk about the things that worry or stress you out and engage in enjoyable activities.

13. Take a break

When faced with challenges or when others annoy you, distance yourself from what's happening, take a little break, and gather yourself so that you can address the issues head-on and find solutions.

14. Be realistic

Establish attainable, realistic goals, break them down into smaller chunks, and work meticulously, without rushing, to attain them.

15. Learn new things and expand your knowledge and experiences

Learning new things is not only interesting, but it also makes you a person who knows and is confident in their information and experiences, an outstanding speaker, and someone who is respected by everyone.

16. Take care of your health and appearance

Exercise, maintain a balanced diet, dress to fit your body type and job style, use subtle hues that are visually pleasing, and maintain a clean, neat look are all basic steps that can boost confidence.

In conclusion

Establishing confidence is difficult. It starts when the person is still a youngster and continues through all phases of their lives. Being confident entails having self-respect, optimism, and the capacity to accomplish goals. It also indicates that the person is confident in the skills and abilities the Lord has given them, which clears the path for them to pursue success.

A person's confidence may be damaged by issues and adversities they encounter in life. In this case, they shouldn't give in to sadness; instead, they should accept themselves for who they are, make an effort to change, look for opportunities all the time, and take full use of them so that confidence returns as they fight through life to accomplish their goals.