9 Signs Tells You It's Time to Change Your Mindset

"There is a sparkling, wonderful, and priceless masterpiece in front of you, and it is elaborate and comprehensive and has resulted in hard work of love and sincerity.

Note: This article is taken from the writer "MARC CHERNOFF", and he tells us about the most important signs that warn us that we need to change the way we think.

Its colors and texture are unrivaled; those colors fly high and then land after them, shine, and jump directly from the canvas. However, you choose to focus your gaze on the small black fly that landed on it, so what drives you to something similar?"

These are the words of one of the new coachees who likens life to a marvelous art painting. After saying this, she smiled and stared at me silently, to respond to her saying: "The point is that there is no way to be absolutely sure of anything or anyone in this world. Life is similar to art in terms of its complexity and unpredictability, so the choice is yours to appreciate it and search for the best, or to focus on its obstacles and always expect the worst."

She commented, “If you always expect the worst, you will never be disappointed.” Then I replied, “That's true, but no one can live a similar life, as people die slowly every day in this way without ever having a real taste of life.”

The above was the conclusion of my Skype conversation with her this morning - which I shared with her consent, of course- I began the conversation literally by telling her that expecting negative things and events to happen is the way she copes and adapts to life, so if you can understand and agree with her in any way, I think it's time to rethink some of your things.

Make sure without any mistake that the struggle or conflict you are going through and Suffer from is not fueled by the words and actions of others and what happened or not in the past. Rather, it is your mind that fuels this conflict and feeds it with the importance of negativity. Believing in negative thoughts and beliefs is the single biggest obstacle or barrier on your way to success and happiness, as your perspective on life arises from the emotional cage in which you were holding yourself.

Some signs that it's time to change your mindset

1. Seeing nothing in life except the negatives

If you are determined to abstract joy and happiness from the present moment, you must learn to focus on the positive. What it takes is not to focus or pay attention to your or others' negative and pessimistic. Also, ignoring those thoughts does not mean that you disregard the reality of your reality and live in a state of denial. However, it is in fact that you deliberately with all your focus do not allow negativity and pessimism to control your experience in the present or form a blurring of your eyes that deprives you of seeing the blessings that you possess.

Negativity never increases our happiness in the present moment and does not help us achieve that happiness in any way. Although we are human beings who are innately prepared to think that our negative thoughts, fears, and worries provide some benefits, when we examine a negative idea that we have and research it deeply, we will realize that negativity does not have any benefits and does not serve us in any way. We will also find that focusing on it does not make us better people, and does not help us to make any progress, but the truth is the exact opposite.

2. Your resistance to the truth with all your strength and relentlessly

Observe your self-talk with yourself, and see if you find yourself complaining or whining - intentionally or unconsciously - about your current situation in life, the words and actions of others, your past or circumstances, or even about the weather. Complaining is a constant lack of acceptance of the reality in which you live and always carries massive negativity, tension, and psychological pressure. When you start complaining and whining, you will be a victim of everything you complain about. When you take the initiative to do things and positive actions, you will control your affairs and have power and authority in your life.

So,  if you have something or a situation that really upsets you, you can take action to change it or get rid of it, or you can deliberately forget about it and leave it in the past. Everything else is just foolishness.

Remind yourself again and again, if necessary, that when you cannot change something disturbing in your life, you must change your attitude towards it or your view of it. After you have done all you can and done your best, happiness lies in allowing yourself to fully accept the situation in which you live instead of wishing for things out of your control and worrying about them. Your current situation is the reality in which you are supposed to live, as for the rest of your impossible dreams and wishes, it is just an argument between you and life that brings you into a cycle of negativity and disappointment.

3. Your tendency to blame others and hold them accountable

Forgetting and overlooking gives us emotional freedom, which is the only condition for happiness. If you are still attached to something like anger, resentment, or jealousy, then you cannot be free, and you must also realize that this will not change the nature of others or what is in their hearts, but it will only change you.

So, be calm and stop attacking others and blaming them and accusing them. The strong man is not the one who wins all the battles and confrontations with others. On the contrary, the strong man is the one who controls themselves in moments of anger, and learns from them to develop and prosper.

4. Your fondness and deep concern about everything

Worrying doesn't lead to anything but stealing joy and happiness from your life and keeping you busy without achieving anything at all. It's like using your creativity to imagine things you don't really want, so you have to stop getting yourself into situations of your imagination, where all your options may be wrong.

Remember that it is not important what you look at with your naked eyes. It is what you see with your heart of meanings and words. There are always two ways to face your current situation and deal with it, and if we want to liken each of these two ways to a stone, then you can put that stone as a cornerstone of your success and take it as a starting point towards achieving your goals, or you can pick it up in a state of madness and throw it with concern to destroy your hope and happiness.

The bottom line is this: Not everything should be perfect, logical, or intelligible at the moment, so stop worrying, focus on developing yourself, and increase your attention and awareness. You can go anywhere you want in your imagination, and the rest of your life will be gradually painted according to your fantasies and expectations that are constantly wandering in your mind.

5. Your constant tension and stress due to your expectations

Leave and abandon unnecessary expectations, and appreciate the value of your current situation and what you have for a moment. It does not really matter if you have all or only some of what you wish for. So, be grateful that you are only alive and have one thing, even what you want or desire. Your decision to be a positive person and enjoy a look of gratitude for everything you have affects all your actions and behaviors. The size of your happiness, success, and importance will be directly proportional to the way you choose to think and the amount of your positive thoughts.

Nothing at all goes totally the way you want it to go, so you have to hope for the best, but always expect the least. Also, accept the reality you are living instead of fighting it, and do not let the things you expected happen, thinking that they are the best, deceive you and prevent you from seeing the good that exists in all aspects of your life. Even if you do not go well at all after what you did not expect, it remains valuable and worthwhile if it pushes you to feel new sensations or helps you learn new things.

6. Your secret desire for a life free of aches and pains

Pain is a very annoying part of being human, but it is critical and necessary because it strengthens the mind, heart, and body. You cannot grow into a strong, courageous, and successful person in our world if only good things happen to you within the safe limits of your comfort zone. Therefore, you need real experiences in your life to gain experiences from it, and nothing will become real until you try it yourself.

Frankly, life is very similar to chess. You must make a move to win and triumph even if it is difficult, and things had not happened before exactly as you planned them. You can gain knowledge of the movement that must be implemented through insight, perception, knowledge, and learning from unexpected and often painful lessons, which accumulated in the treasury of your experiences during your walk in life.

7. Not feeling satisfied or pleased at all with what you have

We feel much more frustrated and stressed when we have more blessings than we have enough, but we feel a desire for more when we have almost nothing and want little. In other words, humans are less upset when they lack many things than when they seem to endlessly lack one constantly changing thing.

Putting all the details aside, the secret is to reduce our desires and increase our sense of appreciation and gratitude to eliminate emotions of resentment and dissatisfaction. Most people focus on the things they cannot get and worry about them to the point that they do not think for a moment about whether they really want them. Therefore, you should always wonder in similar situations whether the things you can achieve are really better than what you already have or that you are only used to feeling dissatisfied and happy with what you have.

Finally, happiness is a behavior of gratitude and appreciation that we can act upon daily. Either invest our time and make the best use of it, or abuse it by always pursuing illusions and impossible dreams. We are the ones who can make ourselves unhappy and sad or stronger and happier people. The amount of effort you will make is the same, and you have the choice.

8. You haven't learned anything new in a while

The best remedy for feeling sad or helpless is to learn something new. It is the only thing that never fails. You may get old and become weak and powerless, you may lie awake on some nights remembering the things you regret, you may lose your only love, you may see the world around you full of toxic behaviors, or you know that your respect has been crushed by the faces of others without friendliness. Learning is the only thing that heals all of the above, which succeeds in this every time.

So, seek to learn why the world around you is swaying between good and evil and what fuels it, or discover the things that excite your enthusiasm and research into it. It is the only positive effort that can not exhaust or alienate or torture the exhausted mind, and also can never fear or doubt it or feel regret about it at all.

Learning is healing. You only have to look at all the available things to learn and start learning afterward.

9. Living in the past

A yearning for the past is a beautiful and sometimes necessary state of mind, a way in which we can all learn lessons from our life experiences and find peace and tranquility in all the achievements we have made or could not even achieve. Still, at the same time, if a yearning for the past precipitates the return of schemes, intentions, and actions to that beautiful mythical past - especially in people who think their present lives are inappropriate - it is merely an empty mood or mindset doomed to bring no benefit to its owners except frustration and a sense of greater unhappiness.

So, don't let your thinking about and nostalgia for the past rob you of the present. Your past didn't define you, defeat you, or deter you from following your dreams; it strengthened your present disposition, so always remember that and keep moving forward.

In conclusion

A successful and effective mindset makes the most of available resources of time, effort, and energy and invests them in making positive changes. It is not about trying to do everything and achieve everything, but it is about making the best use of what you have while enjoying your life.

Your mindset and way of thinking are the foundation or cornerstone of everything that happens in your life, which is the sum of all your beliefs, manners, feelings, behaviors, and feelings, and as you adjust them, here's what to expect when you achieve the right balance:

1. A sense of firm belief, certainty, and purpose in life.
2. Motivation, focus, and a firm commitment to purposeful activities.
3. A clear understanding and vision of current obstacles and opportunities.
4. A sense of peace, tranquility, and joy due to daily progress.