30 Things You Should Start Doing For Yourself
The following article explores a to-do list for the coming year, including 30 things you should start doing for yourself:
30 Things You Should Start Doing For Yourself
1. Good company
The right person means someone whose company you enjoy, who loves and appreciates you, who encourages you to progress in healthy and enthusiastic ways, increases your happiness and vitality, accepts your current true personality, and helps you achieve the self-development you seek unconditionally.
2. Face your problems directly
A person’s personality is not determined by the problems they face, but in the way they respond and recover from them. Problems do not go away unless actual measures are taken to overcome them. Therefore, you must do your best at every opportunity and appreciate your efforts in this regard. It only requires taking simple, gradual measures toward the appropriate solution.
3. Honesty with yourself in all matters
You must be honest in defining the right things and others that require change and identifying the achievements and personal development that you would like to achieve; That is, you must always be honest in all aspects of your life because you will rely only on yourself while going through your life experience.
So, you must study yourself deeply and define all aspects of your personality to understand your current situation and the approach you followed to reach this stage in your life and prepare to determine your next destination and the necessary action plan to reach it.
4. Prioritize your happiness
One’s needs are important, and they hurt themselves when they underestimate them and refrain from taking care of them and defending them.
You can take care of yourself and take care of those close to you at the same time. When you meet your needs, your ability to help those who need you will increase.
5. Be your true self and be proud of yourself
When you pretend to be what you are not, you eliminate your true personality. Accordingly, you must act as you are and accept yourself with your ideas, strengths, and beauty unique from others. Also, you must achieve personal development on your terms, be honest with yourself, and achieve your work with passion.
6. Pay attention to the present moments and live their details
Life is lived in the present time without thinking about the breakthroughs in the future or what happened in the past. It is advisable to live in the moment, experience the events of life in the present time, and appreciate the sweetness of the universe in every moment.
7. Appreciate life experiences gained by making mistakes
It's okay to make mistakes. They are normal and inevitable phases for making progress in life, and if you don’t fail from time to time, it means that you are not making enough effort, and you are not learning new experiences.
You have to take risks, make mistakes, fail, overcome them, and start a new attempt. It is also important to appreciate your attempts to motivate yourself, learn, develop, and evolve. One of the mistakes you fear making may be a key stage in achieving your greatest achievements in life because outstanding achievements are often achieved after many failed experiences.
8. Treat yourself politely
Our relationships with others and our attachment to them depend greatly on the way they treat us, and how people treat themselves determines the standards for how others treat them. So, you must love yourself to be loved by others.
9. Enjoy life blessings
The problem with most people lies in their belief that attaining happiness is linked to achieving a certain level in life, such as promotion to a certain position, or increasing the number of possessions, etc. When you obtain what you want after vigorous efforts, you move to a higher level and seek a new goal.
This behavior leads to spending one's life constantly striving toward new goals without devoting a minimum of time to enjoying the achievements that have been achieved. So, we suggest taking some time every morning after waking up to appreciate the progress you have made and the achievements you have achieved.
10. Make yourself happy
Anyone who relies on another person to make them happy will inevitably be disappointed. Right behavior requires realizing your ability to choose happiness and joy and striving for personal development to be a good role model, contributing to the development of society and the world, reconciling with yourself, and leading your life journey driven by positivity and optimism for the future.
Happiness is a decision you can make in various circumstances and times, and you will find it when you search for it in the available opportunities.
11. Pursuing your dreams and goals
Life does not give us free opportunities on a plate of gold. Rather, we must do our best to seize the opportunities. You cannot guarantee the success of your entire experience, yet you should go through it regardless of the results, so either you succeed or fail and gain more experience, as there is a benefit in both cases.
12. Believe in your ability to start the next phase of your life
There is no doubt that you are ready and possess all it takes to go through the next phase and make progress in your life. Accordingly, you should seize the available opportunities and accept the challenges because it will help you achieve development.
13. Build new beneficial relationships
You should establish relationships with honest and reliable people, compatible with their current and future personality that they seek to achieve.
Also, it is preferable to choose a friend whom you like and are proud of, who treats you with kindness and respect, and exchanges your kindness and commitment to the relationship reciprocated. You should also pay great attention to people’s actions because they reflect feelings and intentions more than words do.
14. Establish new relationships with the people you meet
You can't keep all your friends because people and priorities are constantly changing. Some relationships must end and others form. From this standpoint, it is advisable to accept the possibility of entering into new relationships while you end others that are outdated and no longer valid in your present.
You must trust your opinion, accept new relationships, and realize that you are about to experience a completely new experience. You are preparing to learn, take on a new challenge, and meet a person who will change your life forever.
15. Compete with your old self for further personal development
People should draw inspiration from others, appreciate them, and learn from them, keeping in mind that competing with them is nothing but a waste of time; instead, they should compete with themselves for maximum personal development possible.
16. Rejoice in the achievements of others
You should start noticing the aspects you like in others and tell them about them because appreciating the magnificence of others around you leads to achieving satisfactory and fruitful results that fill your heart with peace.
Accordingly, it is important to rejoice in the progress that others make, praise their achievements, and rejoice in the good things they enjoy from the depths of your heart. They must reciprocate your encouragement and joy in other people’s success because you reap what you have sown.
17. Find the positive in difficult times
You must breathe deeply several times and look for the positive aspects and glimmers of hope in your situation when conditions worsen and when you experience feelings of frustration.
Also, remind yourself that you will emerge from difficult circumstances more miserable than before. Then, think about your achievements and the features of goodness and blessings in your life, and ignore what you lack.
18. Forgive yourself and others
A person is bound to be harmed in their life due to their decisions or because of others. While the pain resulting from these experiences is considered normal, it can sometimes last for long periods. Therefore, one faces great difficulty in getting rid of it.
The cure lies here in forgiveness, and this does not mean forgetting the past or what happened, but letting go of feelings of resentment and pain, deciding to learn from the experience, and moving on with your life.
19. Help others
There is nothing sweeter than caring for others, and providing advice and guidance with knowledge of the situation and familiarity with it. Your help must be rewarded, and the love and kindness with which you treat others will multiply on you.
20. Listen to your inner voice
It's okay to discuss your thoughts with those close to you, as long as you follow your instincts with everything in mind. It's important to be honest with yourself, say what needs to be said, and do the right thing in your intuition.
21. Monitor your stress levels and take short breaks
There is no harm in taking things slowly, but also in pausing to study your current situation and then resuming the progress plan in a purposeful and informed manner. A short break during the peak of your busyness can stimulate your thinking and increase your productivity. Also, it can help you regain your sanity and look at your recent work to ensure it is consistent with your ultimate goals.
22. See beauty in the simplest moments
One should find happiness in the simple daily details, instead of waiting for prominent events in life to occur, such as marriage, having children, job promotion, or winning an award. By simple details, we mean drinking a cup of coffee early in the morning, enjoying the taste and smell of a home-cooked meal, sharing activities with others, or spending time with loved ones. Paying attention to these simple joys daily will make a significant difference in the quality of your life.
23. Accept imperfect things in life
Perfectionism negatively affects quality, and the main challenge while trying to achieve personal development and improve life is learning to accept things as they are without imposing conditions.
It is often desirable to accept and appreciate the events of the universe and people without imposing certain criteria or conditions or trying to make everything rise to a certain level of idealism. Certainly, you should not accept a mediocre life, but you have to train your mind to love and appreciate things that do not meet ideal conditions.
24. Work toward your goals daily
You have to start taking simple, logical, actual measures daily to achieve your goals and dreams, and the more you strive in your pursuit, the more success you will achieve. Many individuals decide at a certain stage in their lives to fulfill their existential mission. Still, very few of them actually start working and dedicate themselves to achieving the ultimate goal.
25. Disclosure of your feelings
When you're hurt, it's okay to walk away and take the time to process the trauma and feelings of pain, but it's important at this point to come out with your feelings by discussing them with a loved one because the disclosure of what annoys you and disturbs your life paves the way for your mood to improve again.
26. Take full responsibility for your own life
It is important that you take responsibility for your mistakes and choices and be prepared to take the necessary actions to improve them. You must take responsibility for your life, or turn to someone to do this task for you.
Then, you will become a follower of your personal ideas and dreams instead of controlling your life. You are the only person capable of directly controlling the outcome of your life experiences. It is an arduous task, full of difficulties for all individuals.
However, you must take responsibility for your situation and overcome the difficulties to live a purposeful life and achieve your existential mission.
27. Work on strengthening the important relationships in your life
You can add joy to your life and the lives of your loved ones by telling them of the friendliness you have for them on a regular basis. Remember that you cannot help all people; thus, you must identify the important people in your life and treat them well.
It is advisable that you focus in your relationships on quality rather than quantity. It's okay to have a few good, trustworthy friends.
28. Focus on the aspects you can control
One cannot change everything in one's life. Rather, making some changes, and wasting time, talent, and emotional energy on things outside your control leads to frustration, misery, and not making any progress in life. For this reason, it is advisable to invest your energy in activities that you can always control.
29. Optimism about the possibility of achieving positive results
You must believe in the possibility of achieving a certain thing so that you can actually implement it, and you can overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions by adopting stronger and more effective positive counter-emotions.
You must also pay attention to self-dialogue and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. It is preferable to focus on your goal and take the necessary measures to achieve it regardless of hardship or ease of circumstances.
You cannot control everything that happens in your life. On the other hand, you can control the way you respond to these events. There are positive and negative aspects in everyone's life, and a person's long-term happiness and success depend mainly on the aspects that they focus on.
30. otice the blessings and the good aspects in your life
American writer and poet Henry David Thoreau said: "Richness is not in abundance of money; it is in one's ability to enjoy all the moments and experiences of their life." It is important to think logically when conditions are bad and to appreciate the aspects of prosperity in your life in terms of the availability of food, drink, shelter, and clothing that the Lord has bestowed upon you, in addition to your comfortable work, health insurance, the ability to connect to the Internet, and your ability to read, for example. Many people ignore the above-mentioned forms of wealth, even though they require giving thanks and gratitude at all times.