How Do You Impose Your Personality on Those Around You and Employ Your Vocal Skills?

Talking to others without them listening to you is a very miserable thing, and it can lead to frustration, a sense of weakness and lack of value, but the causes of this situation are often subject to our control in one way or another. On the other hand, the imposition of our presence and personality does not come out of thin air because it rather requires extensive knowledge, culture, and skill that have to be practiced on a constant basis, and it doesn't come overnight.

We will now learn about one of the most important and useful tools in imposing our presence and personality on others, which is our voice. This wonderful tool that no one taught us how to use in the right way that benefits us in practical life, neither in school nor on television nor in university.

How do you implicit your personality and presence using the right voice register?

Voice pitch is one of the most important components of the vocal ability. The vocal layer ranges from the tip of the nose to the bottom of the chest, and the more superficial the layer, the less convincing it is, as it appears dull and not important.

The so-called "nasal tone" is the worst tone that you can use if you want to get a promotion from your manager at work, within a job interview, or to propose to someone, as it does not give an impression of confidence, and it will make your speech sound questionable regardless of its meaning, content, or validity.

And if you want to convince those around you of your point of view and make your presence felt, you must use the deep vocal register of your voice that comes from the chest, as the strong personality is the one with a deep voice.

How do you implicit your personality and presence using the right voice tone?

The tone of voice is also an essential element in imposing our personalities and presence. It can be done by changing the tone of speech so that it is not a monotone, but rather, we must emphasize the important or key words that represent the messages we would want to deliver.

Astrologers in most cases use the monotone pitch because the viewer feels that all the sentences are repeated and has nothing distinct within them, and that they are all similar to each other;therefore, the viewer does not remember any of them after the end of the program, which is exactly what they want.

How do you impose your personality and presence using the appropriate speech speed?

The pace of your speech should be appropriate. Don't be too fast, and make those around you feel that your words have no value, or too slow that your words become boring because when you speak very slowly, it will prompt the listener to just shake their head, hoping for the end of your speech.

Can silence play a role in imposing your personality and presence?

Silence can be an essential tool in any speech, as the use of silence in the right situations may have many benefits and meanings that outweigh the human ability to express, as we may all go through situations in which we do not find anything to say, and other situations in which we feel that any word can be counted against us especially those in which we are asked about matters that we don't fully acknowledge. Here, it is better to use silence or a short and brief answer.

How do you assert your personality and presence using the right voice volume?

Many people think that their voice must be loud or strong in order for their opinion to be heard and for them to have prestige and presence in front of the public, but this idea is totally wrong. On the contrary, a strong voice can send a message of weakness and lack or absence of wisdom and prudence. A moderately loud voice - in an acceptable way - may be sometimes beneficial at the end of an agreement or a meeting in order to instill confidence in the other party that the agreement will reach success, and that there is no fear of the future.

What are the mistakes that can lead to losing your respect among people?

1. Gossip:

Talking about your friends and their flaws and mistakes in their absence is one of the worst things that can lessen people's respect for you, and to lose interest with you and your words, which weakens your presence among them. For example, after your friend "Majid" left, you started talking bad about him and in front of the rest of your friends. This will make the rest of your friends dislike you because talking bad about someone in their absence makes them think that you will speak ill of them after they leave.

2. Being judgmental:

One of the most common bad habits in our society is making judgments on others and talking about them as facts, for example, “Ahmed is a failure, and he will never succeed in his life.” This sentence will make you a negative person in the eyes of those around you, and it will make them dislike you and never listen to your words. Also, by time you might find yourself someday speaking with no one listening to you

3. Negativity and pessimism:

The permanent negativity and pessimistic nature all the time suggests weakness and helplessness, and then it will weaken your personality and make you less important all the time. People do not like the weak, pessimistic person, and this does not mean that if the circumstances are bad, you should say that they are good and everything will become perfect. However, instead of complaining about circumstances you may not be able to change, you can develop yourself and your abilities and skills in order to be able to face these circumstances, and then spread this attitude to your friends or colleagues at work, as people need someone to give them hope and motivation in times of crisis.

4. Making excuses and blaming others:

Blaming others for our problems and mistakes is the most that can weaken our image and personality in front of the surroundings, as well as making excuses that may be illogical, or could be logical but it is not the problem of others. For example, when your boss at work asks you why you are late, you blame transportation or bad weather, or when you fail in a business, you blame the economy or even global financial crisis. So, try to take responsibility for your own decisions and actions without blaming anyone, and try to say to yourself: "No more excuses."

How do you impose your personality and presence on those who are below you in rank?

When you have a certain authority, whether you are a stay-at-home parent or a manager in a company, and someone below you tries to object to what you say or what you think is right, what is the right thing to do in order to impose your character as a manager or official?

1. At home:

When you tell your son that he has to come home at exactly seven in the evening, he may try to get rid of this authority or evade it by taking the conversation to something that has nothing to do with the main topic. For example, he says: “Why do I have to come back this early? The neighbor's kids don't come home until ten o'clock."

Notice the maze that your child wants to go into, and the response here is by repeating the command you directed with the addition of “your words may be true, but” becomes "You may be right, but you have to be home at seven."

2. At work:

Likewise, when you are a manager in a company, and one of the employees is late for work for some reason, and you say to them: “I hope you will not be late next time,” here they may answer you with phrases such as: “Everyone is coming late, why don’t you talk to them? Am I the only one who is late? Why are you talking to me in that tone?”

Here we notice that the employee is trying to get you into pointless battles in order to break your authority and diminish your presence and personality. Therefore, you should not allow them to divert you from the main topic, and tell them in a strong, clear, and strict tone without disrespecting them: "You may be right, but I hope that the delay will not be repeated next time."

In the end:

We would like to mention that what we have mentioned of methods that enable you to impose your personality and presence on others is a matter of providing benefit for the public interest, and ensuring that others do not infringe on your privacy and your right. It does not include that you use what we mentioned in order to harm or diminish the dignity of people because that will not benefit you in the long run; There may come a day when life will turn on you, and you may be at the mercy or power of those you hurt.