7 Reasons You Stop Trying to Prove Yourself to Others

We sometimes try to show others that we are perfect in our desire to be accepted and admired by all, but people's satisfaction is an unreachable purpose, and we should never seek to please everyone. The beauty of man lies in their spontaneity, in their contradictory emotions, and their acceptance of their faults. When we accept ourselves as we are and decide to appear for who we really are instead of thinking of impressing others, we are ready for honest relationships, ready to feel real happiness, and closer to real success, so there is no need to pretend and assume a personality other than yourself, and you do not have to prove anything to anyone.

Here are 7 reasons to support this fact:

1. People who love you want you to be who you are:

In the long run, it is better to lose the people who want you to change than to win them over at the expense of your real personality. In fact, healthy long-term relationships are the ones that force you not to change yourself in order to impress others.

Ignore comparisons and what others expect from you, focus on developing yourself just according to your convictions, and prove to yourself that you are better than you were. This way only the right people will stay, and they will appreciate all your qualities, even your faults that the wrong people hate.

The most important thing is that you must not change until people love you, and you must be patient, and avoid any attempt to change your personality. You are wonderful as you are, so you will find that only the right people stay in the circle of your relationships.

2. No one knows your best interests better than you:

Don't lose your personality in seeking to be acceptable in the eyes of others, so be confident  in yourself and don't ask others to understand your attitude, opinion, or behavior in life, especially for those who have not experienced what you have been through or do not share your view of life. Do what you see fit, as this is your life, and no one will live it on your behalf.

Put everyone in front of two options, either to accept you as you are, or get out of your life permanently. Also, express yourself boldly and overcome feelings of anxiety and lack of self-confidence. When you live according to your original personality, you leave your wonderful and unique impact in life.

You will refine all your wonderful qualities when you pursue your goals with passion and strength, as long as you do not distract your focus by worrying about the opinions of others. Also, you become stronger when you learn from your mistakes and increase your self-confidence by going through new experiences for the first time. When you accept the idea of the possibility of failure, you will be able to easily rise again, and then proceed without having to justify your failure to anyone.

3. No one will make you successful except your business:

Regardless of any situation you have been in, whether positive or negative, what has happened concerns you alone. You are responsible for realizing - regardless of what has happened in your life so far - that you are able to make the right choices to change the situation, or to change the way you think about the situation.

So, don't let the opinions of others shake your self-confidence, and don't let the opinions of others determine your ability to accomplish what you want. Your ability to achieve something depends entirely on the way you invest in your time and energy.

So, stop worrying about other people's opinions about your competence, and keep your authentic personality. Those who consider you wrong because you live the way you like are the ones who want you to live in the illusion.

4. Society's standards for measuring success do not matter:

When you are confused between what you want to do and what the society tells you to do, follow your desire. Your mission is not to please others, but rather, it is to achieve happiness for yourself.

Regardless of how you choose to live, whether you live in a big city or a small town, you will always meet people who think they know better than you, people who think they are better than you, people who think there is only one measure of happiness, beauty and success, and some of them try to evaluate you based on what you have instead of  your personality.

However, you know better than anyone that materialism does not matter, so you do not seek money itself, rather you seek what is more important than money. Seek out things that cannot be bought with money, such as personal strength, honesty, and self-confidence. When you get these things, do not bargain for them or underestimate the value of these traits in your personality.

5. Life is not a race for gains:

Everyone wants to excel in any field and impress others with their achievements, but the truth is that the development of the personality and the happiness that it achieves occurs during the attempt and not in the success, so you must enjoy every step you take towards your goal. Do not rush quickly and miss the beauty of life, and do not compare yourself to others. Life is not a race, but it is a journey you enjoy and gradually achieve your goals.

Give up the desire to prove yourself to others, and you will be able to focus on things that really matter to you. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that what others are doing is not your concern, and that you have your own unique personality that is unlike anyone else's.

6. Failure is a potential natural consequence of any attempt:

Progress is achieved through continuous work. This means that sometimes you may be wrong, but you should not be worried about being wrong. Failure is a potential consequence of any work. It is sometimes the way forward. If you are serious about impressing others with your ideal personality, you will not be able to develop yourself. Rather, you will waste your energy in order to appear in a certain way rather than focusing on the life you live.

Failure is a natural consequence in life, unless you are an overly cautious type, then you miss out on the pleasure of life. If you are afraid of looking like a failure in the eyes of others, you will not succeed by your own standards.

Remember that it doesn't matter how often you fail or how rugged the road is as long as you keep trying, and ultimately those who know that failure is normal are the ones who achieve their goals, so you should learn that.

7. It is impossible to please everyone:

Satisfying people is an unattainable purpose, and we have said this before. There are always those who tell you that you have made a mistake, and when you achieve success, they refrain from praising you, so do not be one of them and avoid them.

When you encounter someone who tarnishes your reputation, disrespects you, and treats you badly for no obvious reason whatsoever, do not waste your energy trying to change it or gain their satisfaction, but at the same time, do not hate them, just leave them alone, and let life prove who was right and who was wrong. Also, do not waste your precious time trying to prove anything to these people, and do not waste your emotions in hatred for them, as this will not hurt anyone but you.

In conclusion:

You do not need moral or material achievements to impress everyone, as you are wonderful in all cases, and you do not need to prove to anyone anything. Do not care about the way others look at you, but rather, care about the way you see yourself.

You will avoid disappointments and sadness once you stop begging for evaluation from others. The right assessment of yourself only stems from yourself.