Ways to Fix Troubled Relationships

No relationship is invincible, and that’s a fact that we have to accept because troubles are inevitable. What really counts when tension arises between you and your partner is how the two of you deal with it, because your reaction is in full control of the steering wheel.

To stay on the path to a better future, you have to educate yourself about the ways and methods of fixing all the troubles in your relationship and learn how to prevent them from happening again. We will be giving a few tips throughout this article that will be very useful for you in your process of acquiring these new skills.

How to Fix Your Troubled Relationship?

Here is a list of advice that will come in handy in the process of fixing a broken or troubled relationship. Remember that you have to be patient, committed, and dedicated in order for them to work.

1. Your Relationship Should Be Your Number One Priority:

In the same way that all living organisms grow and die, relationships are also either growing or falling apart. It is when we nurture and invest in our relationships that they grow and flourish. Neglected relationships often struggle because they've been neglected. Putting your energy and time into a struggling relationship is the best way to strengthen it. If you really love your partner, you will definitely be able to do this and commit to it.

2. Admit Your Mistakes When You’re the One to Blame:

Most people admit their mistakes and apologize for them, but they try to put the blame on someone or something else. In a way, this is like saying, “I only did this because that person or that situation forced me to and I had no say in the matter,” which doesn’t come across as mature at all but rather very childish. Acknowledging your mistakes and taking full responsibility for them is something that your partner will absolutely appreciate and be grateful for because it’s a very mature and responsible thing to do. When you’re to blame, just take the blame and learn the lesson.

3. Make Peace with the Fact that Disappointments Do Happen:

We get disappointed when our expectations do not line up with reality, and expectations will always differ between two people. As a result, every relationship will have disappointments. Focusing on the negative reinforces our belief that our relationships are plagued by disappointment because we tend to emphasize the negative. Instead of doing so, just accept the fact that these things happen and are completely normal because nothing is perfect. Rather than focusing on those things that have failed to meet your expectations, choose to focus on those things that have exceeded your expectations.

4. Leave the Door Open:

You’re mad at your partner, and you have your reasons, and that’s understood, but don’t keep your door closed at all times. Give your partner a chance to fix what they have broken. Give them the chance to win you back. When you keep your door closed and keep your distance from your partner, it would be the first step of further damaging what’s already damaged. Because then your partner will feel unwanted. Try to keep an open mind in these situations.

5. Accept Your Partner for Who They Are:

You cannot change anyone except yourself in order to improve any relationship. You will be able to heal and grow together more quickly if you accept this truth. We all desire acceptance and love for who we are. Getting your partner to feel that you are not ashamed or disappointed by them may support their decision to make changes. In the meantime, work on improving yourself and changing for the better for your partner.

6. Address The Problems Instead of Avoiding Them:

Sit with your partner and have the talk. Let each other know honestly and explicitly what is bothering you about them and how they are making you feel. Even if you felt a little bit self-conscious or stupid for admitting particular things, it’s fine. Let it all out. As the saying goes, honesty is the best policy, and only honesty will help you in this tough chapter of your relationship, especially if you want to keep your partner.

7. Learn to Forgive and Forget:

Forgiveness is a very misunderstood concept. It doesn’t mean that you’re weak and that you’re just going to let your partner hurt you and do whatever they want to you without any sort of retaliation.It means that you accept that your partner is doing the best they can and that you are sure that they are learning from their past mistakes. It’s an earned second chance for them because you love them enough to give it to them. When they know better, they will do better. Your partner surely didn’t hurt or disappoint you because they wanted to. It's okay that your partner hasn't learned how to love you better yet. To forgive, you must let go of the hurt of the past for the sake of creating new possibilities.

8. Learn Your Partner’s Love Language:

This is a very necessary thing to be able to smooth things out with your partner. Unlocking their love language will make everything easier for you because you will know how to make them feel better anytime, anywhere. It’s also a great way to reassure your partner that you love and appreciate them and that you want to keep them happy at all times.

9. Be There, Be Present:

There is a huge difference between being somewhere with your partner and being present with your partner, much like the huge difference between hearing and listening. Being fully present means not assuming you know what your partner has to say before they speak. It turns you into a curious detective who sincerely wants to discover what is happening as you begin to listen for what you haven't understood yet. Listening to prove that you are right is entirely different from this type of listening.