Solutions for Getting Rid of Your Extreme Jealousy

When I was in high school, I was a good wrestler, and in the lead-up to the state championship in my last year, I was the first, and I was supposed to win by the polls.

I wanted to win, and I worked hard for seven years to get to the top, but I didn't win. In fact, I didn't even make it to the finals. I had one bad game at the beginning, and then failure repeated, and by the end of the tournament, I ended up in eighth place.

I stood on the podium and looked at the seven people before me, three of whom I had beaten, and all I could feel was anger. I imagined myself at the top where I should be, and I was so overwhelmed with envy that I couldn't even look at all the cameras taking pictures around me.

It was a bad day, and I wish I could say I would never try it again, but the truth is I deal with jealousy constantly. At present I have a much better system for dealing with it, but I still feel the same as I did years ago. The more I think about it, the more I believe that jealousy can make or break a person, a family, a relationship, or even a life—it's a common feeling that isn't often dealt with effectively.

I also think that ignoring this leads to contradictory results, so why are we moving away from a real feeling, even if it is undesirable? Instead of ignoring yourself and how you feel, why don’t you confront it and try to take advantage of it?

Treatment of the problem:

Jealousy is a bad and dangerous thing that must be dealt with promptly and directly, like fast-piling garbage. When you see a piece of rubbish thrown, do you pick it up and put it in the trash? Or do you walk around ignoring it, thinking that your life would be easier if you just ignored it?

If you ignore it, does that mean it doesn't exist? How many pieces of rubbish are going to be in there the next time you walk? If a tree falls in the forest and there is no one around, does it make a sound? Of course, it does, and if you push the trash away, you're delaying the inevitable until it piles up and becomes too big for you to control and tame.

How do you feel if you pick up that piece of garbage and throw it in the trash? What feelings do you have about yourself as a person and a citizen when you do something to improve the world? That's what I thought.

This is also the case with jealousy and the rest of life's problems. Similarly, treating this problem is like picking up a piece of garbage; The faster you do it, the better your life becomes, and it becomes easier to deal with it when it reappears again. You start to earn a habit of turning a negative quality in you into a specific part of your new life; That is, you start changing the neurons in your brain.

Synapses may be stimulated differently. The roadmap across the cerebellum begins to shift, transforming once blocked and frustrating modalities into superior modalities of creativity. Is it easy to adopt this new way of thinking? No, but is it worth it? I have to say it has helped me a lot.

Jealousy Converting:

Here are some appropriate solutions to jealousy, but take what works for you and leave the rest:

1. Overcoming jealousy with gratitude:

Being grateful for the amazing life you are living is the best way to deal with jealousy. A quick dose of reality can show how much you have and how much you need to worry about what other people have or what they're accomplishing.

2. Turning jealousy into curiosity:

I think "uninteresting" is one of the most useless words. I was bored when I was presented with something that did not suit me and did not quite match my present identity, but since I learned the benefit of curiosity, I have never been bored for even a second of my life.

It's been more than three years since I've been bored, and today I'm endlessly intrigued by almost anything. Being able to analyze my jealousy to understand what motivates it and find ways to deal with it productively has completely changed my life.

3. Accepting jealousy as a legitimate human emotion:

If you are jealous, it is a natural feeling and you should not be ashamed of it as you do not have to show the amount of your jealousy and its splendor to others, nor do you need to apologize or feel bad about experiencing a natural part of life. Everyone else also deals with it, and you do not need to appreciate anyone else. You are good enough, so overcome your fears and assumptions of inappropriateness, and start to feel comfortable once you're acting on your own.

4. Find more of this feeling by surrounding yourself with wonderful people:

Perhaps the strongest discovery I've ever done myself throughout my life is discovering proximity and relationships with others. You end up just like people you often surround yourself with.

Today, I'm trying to surround myself with people who are at least ten times more amazing than me, which makes me constantly jealous, but so what? I reveal myself to the people who will help me evolve into the person I strive to be, and so I'm beyond that feeling.

5. Take advantage of the positive aspects of jealousy:

If jealousy is a natural human feeling and you cannot avoid it, it may be really useful for something. You can use this curiosity we've talked about before to understand your jealousy, so you can harness the parts that force you to work to be a better person and avoid the parts that make you dive into a bout of depression or push you to criticize people.

Jealousy itself is benign, but the way you behave is what decides your destiny.

6. Adopting the idea of abundance:

This is difficult in a world of seemingly endless scarcity, but it also changes life. So, get rid of the idea that to win, someone else has to lose, and get rid of the idea that there is a limited amount of success that can be achieved, or that there is a limited group of people that can achieve it.

In conclusion:

Free yourself from these beliefs and replace them with the truth that anyone can achieve great things, and seeing others at the peak of their performance lays a better foundation for you to build on. Also, your success can inspire an infinite number of people to succeed without losing anything, so develop your mind and solve the problem of jealousy.