How To Build Trust in a Relationship?

Trust is the most important factor in any relationship you could ever have. If you can’t trust your partner, why bother being with them in the first place, right?!

To build a healthy, sustainable trust with your partner, you’ll need a lot of very important building blocks. In this blog, we will give you advice on how to build trust in your new relationship or rebuild a broken one from scratch in your current one. Let’s begin!

Our Trusty Tips:

1. Communicate Openly and Respectfully:

You trust someone when you feel safe with them and have confidence that they will not harm you or violate your rights. Relationships are based on trust because it allows you to be vulnerable without having to defend yourself in any way. In order to achieve that, you have to show your partner that they can communicate with you, open up to you, and be weak in front of you without having to worry about being judged or taken advantage of. When you respect your partner and listen to them and share with them what they share with you, your first building block will be ready!

2. Respect Your Partner’s Boundaries:

Just because this person is your significant other doesn’t mean you can do and say whatever you want to them. Boundaries are boundaries, and you have to respect them and never cross the line. If you can prove to your partner that you are able to do that with no questions asked, it would definitely be one step closer to a more secure trust relationship between the two of you.

3. The Benefit of the Doubt is Always Required:

Whenever you’re arguing about something, whenever your partner is acting weird, or whenever you just feel like something’s off, don’t immediately activate the freaking out mode. You need to calm yourself down first, get it together, then logically think about what’s on your mind. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. You never know what’s really happening until you get all the evidence, so try not to jump to conclusions just because you have a hunch. It could always be wrong.

4. When You’re Wrong, No Shame in Admitting:

As hard as it is, when you actually admit your mistakes, your partner will start trusting you more and more every day because you’re showing them that you’re not afraid to embrace your flaws and to be yourself, even when you’re bad. It shows honesty, and that’s always welcomed and encouraged!

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Weak:

Being vulnerable in front of your partner is never a bad idea. That sort of behavior assures your partner that you trust them and that you want to open yourself up completely in front of them. When you’re going through tough times, try doing this and see how helpful it will be for both of you.

6. No Empty Promises:

When you make a promise, you keep that promise no matter what. Not doing that will lead to a lot of trust issues in the future, which will basically take you back to ground zero sometimes. So instead of confusing your partner with dishonesty, stay true to them. When you can’t guarantee something will happen, say it, no shame in that. Say that you’ll do your best to make it happen, but you can’t promise anything. Your partner will always understand until you lie.

How Do I Keep This Trust Alive and Well?

1. Keep Assuring Your Partner That You Care:

Your partner has to always be assured that you still care as much as you did before, if not more. Keep sharing beautiful experiences with your partner to grow a better intimate connection by getting into each other’s interests, for example.

2. Voice Your Interests to Your Partner:

Compliment them, tell them why you love them, and describe the things that made you want to spend the rest of your life with them. This shows how much you care and how interested you are in them. It’s a great way to show your partner that they are valued, loved, and wanted.

3. Make Sure Your Partner Has Their Own Personal Space:

Even if you’re married, your partner deserves to have a life of their own outside of your relationship. Being clingy and pressuring your partner to be with them all the time can sometimes be awfully misread. It would make your partner feel like you don’t trust them when they’re out of your sight, which isn’t a very good move from you.

4. Commit to Fixing Your Mistakes:

It’s okay when you mess up, people make mistakes. What really counts, though, is the way you react to your mistakes. Will you fix them? How would you fix them? All of these things play a huge role in showing your partner what they can expect from you in the future.

5. Do a Reality Check with Your Partner Every Now and Then:

This can really help you understand each other as a couple and as individuals. You can dodge a lot of bullets that could be caused by misread signs, untold or unexplained things, etc. Step out of your comfort zone and go the extra mile to discuss what you want as a couple, the things that are bothering you, what more or less you want from each other, and so on. This is very helpful in paving your way to a better future together.

What About Fixing a Broken Trust?

Going through trust issues with your partner is never easy. Rebuilding broken trust is a very hard and long process that requires a lot of patience, and a lot of listening, and an open mind that accepts people’s mistakes and is able to forgive them. Going to a counselor would be a great option in such times because professional help is much preferable at times like these. When you have a third, unbiased party that sees the whole picture clearly, this person will save you a lot of time and wasted effort.